Kids are born different from one another.
Each kid has a unique personality but most often, the initial personality that shows in early childhood simulates the traits of a child's parents.
Genetics plays a major role in a child's personality but it is the way parents raise their kids that shape the real character of their youngsters going forward.
It is no wonder then that a husband and wife who have opposite personalities will pass on some of their traits to their children.
So there's a big likelihood for a husband who has a strong and domineering personality to have a child with the same character traits.
This was evident in the case of Roger and wife, Tara.
The husband is the more vocal person while his wife is the quiet type.
They are exact opposites.
The couple now have two children with the eldest being a boy and the second one a girl.
The boy took on her mother's personality and therefore does not talk much while the little girl is more like his father being the talkative and bossy type.
The two kids have a seven-year gap but it's the little girl that seems to be more controlling of his big brother.
Although only four years of age, she talks like an adult and acts as if she's the older child.
The problem lies in the relationship of the two siblings.
While the older child sometimes does not mind being told what to do by his little sister, they have misunderstandings and arguments every now and then resulting in some violent reactions from both kids.
This happens when the big brother gets tired of the bossy attitude of his sister and the offensive things she says at times.
Family and marriage counselors admit that bossy children can be a problem in the family.
But they also recognize the fact that these kids have the skills and talents that only need to be properly developed with the right guidance from parents.
Instilling discipline is important especially on the part of the bossy child.
When instilling discipline, proper communication is crucial.
As parents, what you can do is to sit down and talk to your child about what should be the right thing to do when the bossiness gets out of control.
Parents normally have a tendency to teach their children about what not to do or the don'ts but maybe if you try the opposite and tell them instead the proper attitude or etiquette, then you just may see positive results.
Bossy children are usually assertive individuals and so it would be best to guide them in their communication skills as they grow up.
This type of children tends to have leadership potential but it's important that they know their limits when it comes to their assertiveness so that they don't end up being manipulative of others including their siblings and friends.
Parents should be firm in disciplining their bossy kids from early childhood until their growing years so that they don't carry on their bossiness through adulthood.
And don't hesitate to approach family and marriage counselors should you find it hard to deal with your children.
Getting professional advice will really be helpful in the different areas of parenting.