If your marriage is currently falling apart but you know deep down that it is worth saving, You must take action to stop the slide toward an unwanted divorce.
It is all too easy to just let the negative dynamics over take sound reason as you watch your once happy marriage crumble away.
Yes, the marriage was once happy and filled with joy.
How did things go so wrong? There could have been a traumatic event that caused the marriage to go bad.
Perhaps there was violence or an affair.
Maybe there is good reason for you to go ahead with the divorce.
If this is the case, perhaps you need to face facts and go through with this sad process.
But in many, many cases there is no terrible event that has led you to this point.
It has just happened little by little.
It has been a day by day process that has ended up on the pathway to divorce.
Maybe life just got in the way.
Happy times and those little moments got lost or pushed out of the way by the pressures of modern life.
Maybe this has caused you or your spouse to feel neglected and lonely.
Maybe the communication that was once so good has become strained and perfunctory.
Little by little your happy marriage has devolved into a sad and empty life.
It is almost like you grew apart while neither of you was paying attention.
I do not know the particulars of your marriage situation.
Only you and your spouse truly know.
But if you are reading this article, you undoubtedly want to avoid a divorce.
You feel that it is unnecessary.
You believe that the marriage can be fixed.
I do too.
But I suspect that in order for you to have the best chance at overcoming your problems and getting back together, you are going to need to follow some sound advice.
You can restore your relationship with your spouse.
There are plenty of resources available for you.
You may decide your marriage needs a marriage counselor.
This can often lead to happy results if the counsellor is skilled and both partners are enthusiastic about undergoing the process.
There are numerous books and online resources you can pursue.
Each has it's advantages and drawbacks.
The important thing is to choose the option that is right for you.
One tactic that can sometimes bring about immediate improvement in your relationship is to mutually declare a time out.
It is best if you can both enthusiastically agree to this.
But if you can declare a small time out in a friendly manner, that can also yield results.
If you are on the path to an unwanted divorce, the important thing is to take stock of your situation without delay.
The situation is highly unlikely to resolve itself on it's own.
With each passing day you move farther down the path to divorce.
You can get help and avoid the divorce you do not want.
While it seems as if countless marriages end up in the divorce courts every day, there are also so many couples that are able to turn things around and rekindle their relationship.
You can save your marriage and become happy once more.