To begin with, there are certainly more than five ways to prompt your partner to want to leave; in factthere are certainly more than five hundred ways if we are honest.
However, for the sake of saving screen space and boring everyone rigid, we will deal with the most likely five! 1.
Nagging.
Why do we do it?Why do so many of us take perverse pleasure in bullying those we love?Often the satisfaction of letting off steam is outweighed by the risk of the object of our dreams walking away forever, yet we recklessly take the risk.
People with deep and passionate love for their partners still cannot resist complaining and moaning about money, their partners friends, whether they have taken out the garbage today, who should drive the car, who dented the car, whether they are faithful, and so on.
Tragically, nagging can become a way of life in record time, eventually rendering the nagger unbearable and the 'nag-ee' desperate to escape.
Human beings gravitate to calm and friendliness.
If you want to hang onto your partner long enough to have a fulfilling relationship, give up the nagging and concentrate on providing an atmosphere of love and serenity.
2.
Cheating.
People have been cheating on each other since time began.
We as a species must be extremely unintelligent - we know without doubt that cheating is something that is always eventually exposed, yet we fool ourselves that is is only for a short time, or that we are so careful it is unlikely our duplicity will be discovered by our partners: It always is, in the end.
Cheats are never quite happy in life.
They live out their passions on the backs of their loved ones and never actually achieve long term contentment.
Such people are guaranteed to find good natured, good looking partners who are interesting and highly motivated; they are also guaranteed to lose them within a couple of years.
Dumb.
3.
Neglect.
Men are more likely to be guilty of this, although some women are equally thoughtless when it comes to sharing out attention.
We all have careers, interests, friends and things that occupy us outside our relationships with our partners.
There must, however, be a balance when it comes to dividing our attentions between the things that interest us and the person who provides us with love and affection.
The reason that men might be more susceptible to neglecting their wives or girlfriends is probably because their interests and hobbies are more often likely to be outside the home.
Women by nature are more likely to be interested in hobbies that centre around their home and children.
Men, on the other hand, take a common interest in football, golf, bowling, car clubs; all kinds of outside interests which take them away from the home they share with their partner.
When it comes to neglect, the perpetrator often does not realise he or she is neglecting their partner until it is too late.
4.
Jealousy.
This one is the most destructive and heartbreaking cause of so many broken relationships.
Jealousy is a terrible emotion that exhausts everyone who comes into contact with it.
Grounds for jealousy are often imagined by the sufferer and do not exist at all, except in their own fevered and discontented mind.
As an emotion it benefits nobody and makes everyone miserable.
Interestingly, so many jealous people happily admit they have a jealous nature, smiling as they do so, as if their jealous disposition makes them smarter than anyone else or serves as a warning to new acquaintances that they are on the ball when it comes to surveillance of their partner´s whereabouts and activities.
Unaware that their jealous streak only makes them look insecure and childish, they cruise through multiple relationships, wrecking each one systematically with their programme of'searching and destroying' their imaginary rivals.
5.
Boredom.
We are all guilty of this one.
Sometimes we just want to sit in a chair and watch something mindless and unintelligent on the box.
We do not want to be interesting and talkative and entertain our partners with the events of the day.
We just don´t.
The danger is when this becomes a daily routine and our partners feel they cannot take it another minute.
Regardless of whether we have had a hard day and feel like a two hour soak in the bath, we must remember there is more than one person in this tiny world called 'a relationship.
' Most loving partners are understanding enough to back off occasionally when some personal space is called for.
The danger occurs when personal space becomes a permanent exclusion zone.
By all means take time out for yourself, but when you do so remember there is someone else outside the door, who needs to have a chat and a hug and a polite enquiry about how their day has been.
Yours are not the only needs to consider.
Talking is the pivot around which relationships may spin - or sometimes spin off!Couples who determinedly talk to each other, even if their partner's point of view is exasperating sometimes, are far more likely to succeed in their relationship than couples who pout at each other's faults and walk in the other direction.
Talk to each other about everything; problems, work, money and hobbies.
The friendship that develops through this companionship holds the relationship together through all kinds of drama and aggravation.