Divorce Advice - 7 Traps to Avoid For a Healthier Transition During and After Divorce
Wow...
divorce...
is this really happening to me? No one skates through divorce, it's life altering and hugely emotional.
However, life will be much easier if you avoid certain traps.
Read on to see what self-sabotaging mistakes not to make.
1) Wallowing - ahhh...
the infamous pity party.
I've had a few of those myself and this is what I've learned.
A few is alright - but no more than a few, okay? Continuous sadness is punishing to your self-esteem and physical health.
2) Obsessing -Your friends and family are more than happy to be there for you initially but if you continue to talk of nothing else you're running the risk of becoming quite boring and draining and you may lose some dear friends.
3) Abusing Your Body with Excessive Eating, Drinking and Drugs-There's a saying, "Wherever you go, there you are.
" Over indulging in comfort foods or numbing your mind with alcohol or drugs is not going to magically erase your problems.
This behavior is very self-punishing.
4) Blaming Yourself - buying into the belief that your relationship failure is all your fault will shatter your self-esteem.
The old adage is true, it takes two to tango, it always has and it always will.
5) Husband Bashing - I know only too well how the injustice, the disappointment and the lies can drive you crazy, but sinking to his level by gossiping with your friends will just keep you in a downward spiral and leave you feeling empty.
6) Isolating- hiding from the world will just make you more sad, lonely and depressed.
Your self-esteem will plummet and you will most likely engage in all of the above negative behaviors.
Get out and connect with others.
7) Focusing on Loss - this is where the law of attraction comes into play big time.
Whatever you focus on will expand - if you stay in the mind-set of loss you stand to lose a lot more than your relationship.
Everything in life happens to support our spiritual growth.
Don't let yourself fall prey to these debilitating reactions.
You are a beautiful being - recognize your value and see what else the universe has to offer.
divorce...
is this really happening to me? No one skates through divorce, it's life altering and hugely emotional.
However, life will be much easier if you avoid certain traps.
Read on to see what self-sabotaging mistakes not to make.
1) Wallowing - ahhh...
the infamous pity party.
I've had a few of those myself and this is what I've learned.
A few is alright - but no more than a few, okay? Continuous sadness is punishing to your self-esteem and physical health.
2) Obsessing -Your friends and family are more than happy to be there for you initially but if you continue to talk of nothing else you're running the risk of becoming quite boring and draining and you may lose some dear friends.
3) Abusing Your Body with Excessive Eating, Drinking and Drugs-There's a saying, "Wherever you go, there you are.
" Over indulging in comfort foods or numbing your mind with alcohol or drugs is not going to magically erase your problems.
This behavior is very self-punishing.
4) Blaming Yourself - buying into the belief that your relationship failure is all your fault will shatter your self-esteem.
The old adage is true, it takes two to tango, it always has and it always will.
5) Husband Bashing - I know only too well how the injustice, the disappointment and the lies can drive you crazy, but sinking to his level by gossiping with your friends will just keep you in a downward spiral and leave you feeling empty.
6) Isolating- hiding from the world will just make you more sad, lonely and depressed.
Your self-esteem will plummet and you will most likely engage in all of the above negative behaviors.
Get out and connect with others.
7) Focusing on Loss - this is where the law of attraction comes into play big time.
Whatever you focus on will expand - if you stay in the mind-set of loss you stand to lose a lot more than your relationship.
Everything in life happens to support our spiritual growth.
Don't let yourself fall prey to these debilitating reactions.
You are a beautiful being - recognize your value and see what else the universe has to offer.
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