The lack of sleep, not being able to eat, always thinking about your ex... can you take much more of this craziness? The anguish of breaking up can be terrible at times. What can you do? Will you ever have a happy life once more? Is it possible to get back together? If you truly want to salvage a relationship, then you must understand exactly what to say and do. And above all, you must avoid the usual mistakes virtually all people make when attempting to fix a relationship.

Is getting back together what you honestly wish? Is it what's best for both of you? Be honest with yourself and make particular you're not just going through separation anxiety.

If a second chance is what you honestly wish, then the first thing you must do is stop any pushy or needy behavior. When you come across as needy you give away all your power. Pleading, begging or arguing about the relationship will drive them away from you... it's the worst possible way to salvage a relationship.

By allowing your ex their space, you allow them to naturally start coming back to you again. Think about it... if someone is throwing themselves at you, what's your first reaction? You feel like getting away from them. You really want zero to do with them.

You must acquire an attitude of independence. I know this can be tough, especially when you are depressed and anxious to get back together. You must make yourself do this.Keeping active doing the things you enjoy is very important.

This approach is surprisingly effective. Now you're no longer fighting human nature... you're working with it. By resisting the urge to behave pushy and needy and instead acting detached and care-free, you will be amazed how fast your ex changes their attitude.

These are the first steps to take if you want to salvage a relationship. Now you will both be able to come together as equals... and start working on healing the deeper problems that led to the break up.