How To Talk To People?
Unfortunately, in today's fast paced world many people have forgotten or do not know how to talk to people.
We have become so focused on ourselves that we think those around us are here for our purposes: that we are owed something.
This kind of thinking comes out in the way we talk to people, and we can always see it when such people talk to us.
This sort of thinking is always more 'demanding' than it is asking and is more about 'me' than it is 'you'.
What's interesting is that we know how it feels to have someone talk to us in ways that disregard our input or minimise our equality, yet many of us do the very same thing to others that we don't like them doing to us.
There are a variety of different reasons why we do this, but the leading reason is because we have learned and made a habit of doing so.
Since it's something we have learned it then becomes possible to change it by learning new ways of talking to people.
Here are some things you can do to make your next conversation with someone a better one.
Keep It Simple Keeping it simple is actually a key to practically every relationship or friendship we enter or are involved with.
Not many of us enjoy talking with anyone who we perceive as being complicated, and they're generally easy to identify because all they do is talk, and usually exclusively about themselves.
Take the example of those experiences and apply them to how you talk to people.
Keep it simple, concise, and as direct and to the point as possible.
When you explain something to someone else, break it down into small little pieces that are easy to understand and comprehend.
Many people like to show off their intelligence by using those big words that they put into their college thesis.
This might be okay if the person you are talking to is your college professor.
However, most of the people you will talk to will not be of that intelligence level, so why talk to them like they are? When you do, it only shows your lack of consideration for them and that you are showing off.
Most people like communicating with those who speak in simple and clean language they can understand.
To use foul or street language to talk to your employer, teacher, parents and many others actually demonstrates your lack of intelligence and command of language usage, rather than how cool you are.
Let The Other Lead Everyone wants to be a Rock Star! And we are at certain times, but we can't be all the time.
There are times when we have to let go and sing back-up and let the other take front stage and lead the direction the conversation is going to take.
Knowing when to do this will dramatically help you talk to people more effectively.
Letting the other lead talking basically shows that you don't have to be in control of the conversation to know you are a part of it.
People appreciate this kind of attitude in the people they are taking to.
Show Understanding We all want to be understood and there is perhaps nothing worse than to be talking to someone who nods in acknowledgement to what we are saying but when asked what they think look at us with vacant eyes as if asking, "what did you say?" This is in fact very rude and a good way to end a conversation on bad terms.
When someone is speaking to you, be interactive with them and show sincere interest.
You do this by asking questions about what they are talking about and giving your input at the appropriate times.
This is how to talk to people in a respectful, simple manner in which they can understand, and it facilitates conversation as the other person is better able to respond and feel comfortable doing so.
We have become so focused on ourselves that we think those around us are here for our purposes: that we are owed something.
This kind of thinking comes out in the way we talk to people, and we can always see it when such people talk to us.
This sort of thinking is always more 'demanding' than it is asking and is more about 'me' than it is 'you'.
What's interesting is that we know how it feels to have someone talk to us in ways that disregard our input or minimise our equality, yet many of us do the very same thing to others that we don't like them doing to us.
There are a variety of different reasons why we do this, but the leading reason is because we have learned and made a habit of doing so.
Since it's something we have learned it then becomes possible to change it by learning new ways of talking to people.
Here are some things you can do to make your next conversation with someone a better one.
Keep It Simple Keeping it simple is actually a key to practically every relationship or friendship we enter or are involved with.
Not many of us enjoy talking with anyone who we perceive as being complicated, and they're generally easy to identify because all they do is talk, and usually exclusively about themselves.
Take the example of those experiences and apply them to how you talk to people.
Keep it simple, concise, and as direct and to the point as possible.
When you explain something to someone else, break it down into small little pieces that are easy to understand and comprehend.
Many people like to show off their intelligence by using those big words that they put into their college thesis.
This might be okay if the person you are talking to is your college professor.
However, most of the people you will talk to will not be of that intelligence level, so why talk to them like they are? When you do, it only shows your lack of consideration for them and that you are showing off.
Most people like communicating with those who speak in simple and clean language they can understand.
To use foul or street language to talk to your employer, teacher, parents and many others actually demonstrates your lack of intelligence and command of language usage, rather than how cool you are.
Let The Other Lead Everyone wants to be a Rock Star! And we are at certain times, but we can't be all the time.
There are times when we have to let go and sing back-up and let the other take front stage and lead the direction the conversation is going to take.
Knowing when to do this will dramatically help you talk to people more effectively.
Letting the other lead talking basically shows that you don't have to be in control of the conversation to know you are a part of it.
People appreciate this kind of attitude in the people they are taking to.
Show Understanding We all want to be understood and there is perhaps nothing worse than to be talking to someone who nods in acknowledgement to what we are saying but when asked what they think look at us with vacant eyes as if asking, "what did you say?" This is in fact very rude and a good way to end a conversation on bad terms.
When someone is speaking to you, be interactive with them and show sincere interest.
You do this by asking questions about what they are talking about and giving your input at the appropriate times.
This is how to talk to people in a respectful, simple manner in which they can understand, and it facilitates conversation as the other person is better able to respond and feel comfortable doing so.
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