Are you thinking about your ex all the time, unable to get over them and move on? Do you know you're still in love with him or her? If so, you probably wonder if they feel the same way or if they're over you already.
There's many ways to try and decipher your ex's feelings towards you.
Obviously, it's a lot harder to now what they feel if you no longer see each other or speak to each other.
If this is the case, you may be in better luck than you think.
As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Think About How the Relationship Ended If you were the one dumped, then you probably remember the breakup speech or whatever means your ex used to break it off.
Did they have enough care and respect for you to breakup with you face-to-face? Was it a breakup via phone call? Even worse, did they dump you in the most impersonal ways such as text, email, or fax? You can consider yourself fortunate if your ex took the time to sit down with you for the breakup conversation.
This indicates that they still cared about you, and quite possibly still loved you.
The impersonal and downright cruel ways to dump someone (text, email, fax, etc.
) are cowardly and idiotic.
If your ex chose one of these methods to end your relationship, chances are they stopped loving you at some point.
Has There Been Any Communication Since the Breakup? If your ex has never made any attempt to speak to you or check up on you, that's a bad sign.
Worst case scenario? They do not love you.
The best case scenario you can hope for is that you have a very selfish person on your hands.
Your ex doesn't really consider the feelings of others.
How Does Your Ex Treat You Now? Do they only call you or stop by when they need something? Are you guaranteed a drunken phone call every Friday or Saturday night? If you are dealing with this type of ex, it's important that you know that they are incapable of loving anyone.
Don't punish yourself and blame yourself; don't try to guess what's wrong with you or what you did wrong.
Chances are, you didn't do anything to justify the breakup or any bad behavior from them afterwards.
Do a Little Detective Work Is your ex in a new relationship? Do they appear to be happy in this relationship? Do they badmouth you behind your back, or make up blatant lies about you? Mutual friends ad acquaintances come in very handy here.
If you do not cross paths much anymore and no longer run in the same circles, then you will have to rely on social networking sites and public records searching.
Social networking sites (Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, etc.
) can be most useful.
If you sneaky and computer-savvy enough, you can turn your HD camcorder into a monitoring system.
Take Account of All the Little Things Does Your Ex Remember Your Birthday? Do you still receive Christmas cards from them each year? If you were hospitalized, would your ex care and visit you there during your stay? Always remember that actions speak much louder than words.
Your ex can speak eloquently for hours and promise you the world even as a friend only.
However, if they can't back it up in the real world then you gotta ditch 'em.
If they were a lousy boyfriend or girlfriend, chances are they will be a poor excuse for a friend as well.
He or She Worries About You Excessively If your ex is the type of person who insists you call to check in if you're traveling, or is constantly giving you tips on how to look out for potential dangers, chances are they still love you dearly.
Only you can reach the final decision on whether or not your ex's love is romantic or platonic in nature.
Love is love, and it comes in many forms.
Your Ex Instinctually Still Uses Pet Names and Couple Talk With You You may brush this off as force of habit, but it actually reveals much more.
They are still incredibly comfortable with you, and subliminally their brain is still sending them the same signals when you are around.
It all boils down to their actions, how they treat you, and how much attention they give to you.