Are You Conning Yourself?
Most people are very, very good at conning themselves.
In fact, having a collection of blind spots and weaknesses that OTHERS can see, but we can't, is pretty much the definition of human nature.
Nowhere is this more prevalent than in male-female relationships.
The prime directive of EVERY HUMAN on earth is to hook up and make more humans.
Every other thing that humans have engaged in and will engage in, on a deep instinctive and subconscious level, is to support that goal.
Sure, we may have TONS of conscious desires and plans that have nothing to do with hooking up, but that is, by far, our deepest desire.
Because it's so crucially important, every time we guys see a girl, we get a flood of hormones, chemicals, and neurological fireworks that tell us it's do or die.
Literally.
Any guy that had the genes to look at a hot girl and think "no big deal" didn't tend to pass on those genes.
This is why meeting girls is so difficult.
Because it's so crucially important (from an evolutionary and biological perspective) to "do it right," most of us feel a flood of anxiety and literal fear.
Not just a slight tinge of fear, but that raw "fight or flight" type of fear.
But because we are so good at conning ourselves, admitting that we feel fear is difficult for most guys.
We say things like "Oh, I'm not afraid, she's just not my type.
" Or "I just don't know what to say.
If I knew what to say, I'd go right over there!" Which, of course, is utter BS.
This leads many guys to think they need to "study more" or "go to another seminar" or spend some time reading internet forums, as if they are going to discover the holy grail of pick up.
On a deep level, you know this is just a con.
The more you study, and learn and go to seminars and spend time reading forums, the more time you spend NOT approaching.
It SEEMS like you're "learning" or "making progress," but in reality you are just AVOIDING your fears.
And I promise you, you'll never got hot girls in your bed unless you FACE YOUR FEARS.
Not just face them, but walk right through them.
Because when you do, they'll literally vanish.
And when you understand this, you'll understand that talking to girls is ALL you need to do to improve your game.
In fact, having a collection of blind spots and weaknesses that OTHERS can see, but we can't, is pretty much the definition of human nature.
Nowhere is this more prevalent than in male-female relationships.
The prime directive of EVERY HUMAN on earth is to hook up and make more humans.
Every other thing that humans have engaged in and will engage in, on a deep instinctive and subconscious level, is to support that goal.
Sure, we may have TONS of conscious desires and plans that have nothing to do with hooking up, but that is, by far, our deepest desire.
Because it's so crucially important, every time we guys see a girl, we get a flood of hormones, chemicals, and neurological fireworks that tell us it's do or die.
Literally.
Any guy that had the genes to look at a hot girl and think "no big deal" didn't tend to pass on those genes.
This is why meeting girls is so difficult.
Because it's so crucially important (from an evolutionary and biological perspective) to "do it right," most of us feel a flood of anxiety and literal fear.
Not just a slight tinge of fear, but that raw "fight or flight" type of fear.
But because we are so good at conning ourselves, admitting that we feel fear is difficult for most guys.
We say things like "Oh, I'm not afraid, she's just not my type.
" Or "I just don't know what to say.
If I knew what to say, I'd go right over there!" Which, of course, is utter BS.
This leads many guys to think they need to "study more" or "go to another seminar" or spend some time reading internet forums, as if they are going to discover the holy grail of pick up.
On a deep level, you know this is just a con.
The more you study, and learn and go to seminars and spend time reading forums, the more time you spend NOT approaching.
It SEEMS like you're "learning" or "making progress," but in reality you are just AVOIDING your fears.
And I promise you, you'll never got hot girls in your bed unless you FACE YOUR FEARS.
Not just face them, but walk right through them.
Because when you do, they'll literally vanish.
And when you understand this, you'll understand that talking to girls is ALL you need to do to improve your game.
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