Your girlfriend tells you it's over and you had no clue it was coming.
You are angry, upset and hurt.
You ask yourself - how do I get my girlfriend back? What should you do? Men react very differently to break-ups than women.
Often, they missed the signs that trouble was coming.
Or, if they knew things were wrong, they didn't realize that it was serious enough to cause a break-up.
So, when it happens, most men are shocked and have difficulty absorbing the loss.
Women tend to see the "big picture" and are planners.
Your girlfriend may have been thinking about this a long time but, because you didn't see it coming, you don't know how to react.
You are emotional and terrified so you may react badly or lash out in anger.
If you want to know how to get your girlfriend back, the most important thing you need to do is to step back! Ask questions if you need to but do not want yell, scream, threaten or harass.
Take some time to think things through.
Looking back, you may begin to see the problems.
You need to understand where she is coming from.
Once you do that, you can begin to correct the issues.
Your girlfriend may have only broken up with you as a last ditch effort to save your relationship.
If that is your goal as well, the two of you can begin to work through your problems together.
Most relationships can be saved if both people are willing to recognize their issues and work on them.
Some things that you should absolutely NOT do: yell, scream, rant or rave at her.
Men are bigger and stronger than women and it doesn't take much to cross over into threatening behaviors.
Do not call or text her 20 times per day, follow her around, wait for her after work, etc.
This will only threaten her even further and push her away.
Do NOT drag her friends or family into it looking for answers - they are her support system not yours.
Do not try to alienate them from her and get them on your side.
Any negative actions aimed directly at her will only serve to make her even more angry and will sabotage any chance of getting her back.
There are other ways to get your girlfriend back but it depends specifically on your situation.
Everyone is different.
Does she want to be pursued? Does she want a strong, independent man? Does she want to feel appreciated or needed? Only you can answer those questions.
Gear your actions towards what you think she wants or what she tells you she wants.
However, make sure you think every action through -deep down, you will know what is right.
If you want to get your girlfriend back - don't let your emotions get the better of you and you have a chance!