How to Stop and Overcome Violence in All Walks of Life
Violence, of any kind, is wrong.
It is also unnecessary.
I don't care how passionate you are about your opinion or how important you think your point of view might be, if you need to get it across with violence then it cannot be a very good point; which makes you the fool.
Of course, if we look around the world, we see violence on a daily basis; desperate people with desperate issues desperately trying to get their point across - from the nations that are trying to control the behavior of other countries, to religions that are trying to force their imaginary friend on others, to governments that repress their populations, all the way through to the postal worker who feels so depressed that he decides to take other people down with him, or the husband who has to beat his point into his wife and children.
Violence is born out of something far beyond basic ignorance (it cannot be blamed on a poor education) - if one completely and utterly ignores one's inner voice, then violence is the answer.
It does not take a wise man to know that being hit in the face is an unpleasant experience, so why on earth would you want to do that to someone else? The answer: something far beyond basic ignorance.
One does not need to be highly educated to get this concept; there is no need for any form of education, no lessons to be taught - being the victim of violence is an unpleasant experience; even if that violence comes in the form of mental abuse - it is still violence, and it still unacceptable.
I am under no illusions; I understand that defending oneself against violence may sometimes require physical action and violent retribution - the Christian teaching of 'turn the other cheek' does not do much for one's self esteem (or face) - but then again, the Christian Crusades of the 1500's didn't do much to uphold the Christian ideology; the whole thing seems a little disingenuous, the whole concept of forcing your religion (or opinion) on someone else is completely counter-intuitive, as is the whole idea that standing there and letting someone hit you again is a wise move; it may work in the short term to be the aggressor, but in the long term the truth will appear and the violence will have consequences, the retaliation will come; acting like a victim may be the ultimate passive reaction in the short term, but in the long term the violence will only escalate.
Look at what is happening now, the backlash by Islam against Christianity; it is not pleasant, and where will it end? It probably won't because the violence is now based on retaliation.
Yes, I am pointing the finger at those religions that all teach 'do as you would be done by' yet still allow violence, work with violence and accept violence into their daily existence - Islam, Judaism, Christianity, (the list goes on) - Oh Ye of the Faith have no place in anyone's life when you preach one thing and do something so messed up, when you confuse and contort the basic premise of 'love thy neighbor' yet hate anyone who doesn't agree with you and then violently attack them in the name of God (who the hell is she anyway?).
Understanding violence is a long, complicated, confusing and catastrophic journey; but really, we do not need to understand violence to know one thing - if you are ever the victim of violence, whether it be in a nation's defense or a relationship situation, move away, get away, escape and don't ever put yourself in that position again; don't ever allow yourself to be the victim of another's violence twice, for if you are, then more fool you.
Nothing is worth it.
Nothing that comes from violence is going to work in the long run, and in the short term you will only ever end up hating yourself for allowing it to happen again...
and again.
I know that national defense is deemed to be a good reason for violence, and I uphold the theory that we should be able to defend ourselves against violence; but to aggressively enter another country, to place military bases in another's homeland, to escalate the violence on a long term basis does not help to reduce the problem.
Being a strong entity requires the ability to stand firm without the need to lash out; being the retaliator only ensures one thing - more violence.
Now, I am sure some American patriots would blame the Islamic Fundamentalists of this world for the situations in Iraq and Afghanistan, and for the attacks of 9.
11, but we must be aware that the USA has had military bases in these Islamic nations for decades (whilst they are not permitted the same honor on American soil), and the United States has become a beacon of terror in those places; these nations lose ten civilian lives to every one of our soldiers; is it any wonder they retaliate? If you stick your hand in the hornets nest, you will get stung.
So, I advocate a strong stance against violence, a quick jab to hold the aggressor back and to warn them off future attacks, but I do not encourage extreme long term, deeply involved retaliation.
Hold the line, or walk away, but do not let it escalate.
Being a victim is always worse than being a culprit - not only does the victim have to live with the pain that was caused, the memory of the pain and the fear of that pain, that victim also lives with the shame, and the shame is the thing that eats away inwardly, that lowers the sense of self, that never lets go and only grows more powerful with the passing of time.
If there is one incident of violence in any relationship, then get out; if it was perpetrated against someone else in your family, then do something to help; if it makes you feel helpless and scared, then remember that that is exactly what it is meant to do and the bully will always prey on the weak, he will always victimize the victim.
Don't be that victim.
Don't allow it.
Ever.
Violence is unacceptable.
But allowing the continuation of violence by staying within range of the culprit is plainly unacceptable too.
If you stay there, if you allow it to happen again, then you are no longer a victim, you are an enabler.
Don't encourage violence by accepting it in your life; don't be a victim, an enabler or a perpetrator.
Getting away may seem to be no option, but it is a far better choice than remaining there to be hurt repeatedly; and if you have children, think of the lessons they learn by allowing them to see these violent interactions.
Guy Blews
It is also unnecessary.
I don't care how passionate you are about your opinion or how important you think your point of view might be, if you need to get it across with violence then it cannot be a very good point; which makes you the fool.
Of course, if we look around the world, we see violence on a daily basis; desperate people with desperate issues desperately trying to get their point across - from the nations that are trying to control the behavior of other countries, to religions that are trying to force their imaginary friend on others, to governments that repress their populations, all the way through to the postal worker who feels so depressed that he decides to take other people down with him, or the husband who has to beat his point into his wife and children.
Violence is born out of something far beyond basic ignorance (it cannot be blamed on a poor education) - if one completely and utterly ignores one's inner voice, then violence is the answer.
It does not take a wise man to know that being hit in the face is an unpleasant experience, so why on earth would you want to do that to someone else? The answer: something far beyond basic ignorance.
One does not need to be highly educated to get this concept; there is no need for any form of education, no lessons to be taught - being the victim of violence is an unpleasant experience; even if that violence comes in the form of mental abuse - it is still violence, and it still unacceptable.
I am under no illusions; I understand that defending oneself against violence may sometimes require physical action and violent retribution - the Christian teaching of 'turn the other cheek' does not do much for one's self esteem (or face) - but then again, the Christian Crusades of the 1500's didn't do much to uphold the Christian ideology; the whole thing seems a little disingenuous, the whole concept of forcing your religion (or opinion) on someone else is completely counter-intuitive, as is the whole idea that standing there and letting someone hit you again is a wise move; it may work in the short term to be the aggressor, but in the long term the truth will appear and the violence will have consequences, the retaliation will come; acting like a victim may be the ultimate passive reaction in the short term, but in the long term the violence will only escalate.
Look at what is happening now, the backlash by Islam against Christianity; it is not pleasant, and where will it end? It probably won't because the violence is now based on retaliation.
Yes, I am pointing the finger at those religions that all teach 'do as you would be done by' yet still allow violence, work with violence and accept violence into their daily existence - Islam, Judaism, Christianity, (the list goes on) - Oh Ye of the Faith have no place in anyone's life when you preach one thing and do something so messed up, when you confuse and contort the basic premise of 'love thy neighbor' yet hate anyone who doesn't agree with you and then violently attack them in the name of God (who the hell is she anyway?).
Understanding violence is a long, complicated, confusing and catastrophic journey; but really, we do not need to understand violence to know one thing - if you are ever the victim of violence, whether it be in a nation's defense or a relationship situation, move away, get away, escape and don't ever put yourself in that position again; don't ever allow yourself to be the victim of another's violence twice, for if you are, then more fool you.
Nothing is worth it.
Nothing that comes from violence is going to work in the long run, and in the short term you will only ever end up hating yourself for allowing it to happen again...
and again.
I know that national defense is deemed to be a good reason for violence, and I uphold the theory that we should be able to defend ourselves against violence; but to aggressively enter another country, to place military bases in another's homeland, to escalate the violence on a long term basis does not help to reduce the problem.
Being a strong entity requires the ability to stand firm without the need to lash out; being the retaliator only ensures one thing - more violence.
Now, I am sure some American patriots would blame the Islamic Fundamentalists of this world for the situations in Iraq and Afghanistan, and for the attacks of 9.
11, but we must be aware that the USA has had military bases in these Islamic nations for decades (whilst they are not permitted the same honor on American soil), and the United States has become a beacon of terror in those places; these nations lose ten civilian lives to every one of our soldiers; is it any wonder they retaliate? If you stick your hand in the hornets nest, you will get stung.
So, I advocate a strong stance against violence, a quick jab to hold the aggressor back and to warn them off future attacks, but I do not encourage extreme long term, deeply involved retaliation.
Hold the line, or walk away, but do not let it escalate.
Being a victim is always worse than being a culprit - not only does the victim have to live with the pain that was caused, the memory of the pain and the fear of that pain, that victim also lives with the shame, and the shame is the thing that eats away inwardly, that lowers the sense of self, that never lets go and only grows more powerful with the passing of time.
If there is one incident of violence in any relationship, then get out; if it was perpetrated against someone else in your family, then do something to help; if it makes you feel helpless and scared, then remember that that is exactly what it is meant to do and the bully will always prey on the weak, he will always victimize the victim.
Don't be that victim.
Don't allow it.
Ever.
Violence is unacceptable.
But allowing the continuation of violence by staying within range of the culprit is plainly unacceptable too.
If you stay there, if you allow it to happen again, then you are no longer a victim, you are an enabler.
Don't encourage violence by accepting it in your life; don't be a victim, an enabler or a perpetrator.
Getting away may seem to be no option, but it is a far better choice than remaining there to be hurt repeatedly; and if you have children, think of the lessons they learn by allowing them to see these violent interactions.
Guy Blews
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