When people get married, they genuinely make vows to stay together for the rest of their lives.
They make promises to each other that they intend to keep, but throughout the years, those promises begin to get lost through a process of arguments and disillusionment.
The reasons why the subject of divorce will come up in a marriage, is when the arguments are on a continuous basis.
Every couple argues, but when the arguing becomes the only source of communication for a couple, this is when the subject of divorce will come up.
After many attempts to save your marriage end up failing, you may believe that divorce is the next natural step, but saving a marriage takes more than just a few attempts.
If all of your attempts up to this point have failed, it is because you haven't found the right solutions.
When it comes to saving a marriage, no stone should be unturned.
If a couple really wants to work at saving their marriage, it has to come from both of them, and not just one of them.
Just as you were both present during their marriage, you need to both be present to save the marriage.
There are many solutions to stop a divorce.
Regardless if you and your spouse are just discussing the possibility of a divorce, or you've already separated, and are living apart, there are soluitions that can save your marriage from the brink of disaster.
Seeking the help of a marriage counselor is one solution, but most people feel that their problems have gone beyond the help of a therapist, and the only thing that a therapist can do for them at that point, is to help point out the reasons for the divorce in the first place.
If a couple can find those reasons on their own, they can save their own marriages without the help of an outside intermediary.
That's why you and your partner need to sit down and iron out a communication plan today.
Unless you start talking about the problems that are plaguing your marriage, you'll never find any workable solutions.
It's important to establish ground rules for communication.
This may seem a bit over the top but it's actually very productive.
Agree to talk at a time when neither of you will be easily distracted.
Turn off your cell phones and focus solely on one another.
Give each other a chance to speak without interruption.
This one is tough but if you are conscious of not talking when your spouse is, it's definitely doable.
Finally, learn from what your partner shares.
Obviously there are going to be bruised egos and hurt feelings but your marriage is at stake.
Unless the two of you get down to the nitty gritty, your relationship will have no chance of making it.