How to Put the Romance in Every Getaway
There is no law stating that couples are entitled to one honeymoon in a lifetime. I believe every vacation you plan as a couple is a honeymoon. That doesn’t mean having to splurge for five-star hotels or exotic destinations. It means infusing the trip with romance – and lots of it. You can plan a honeymoon-like staycation right in your own living room, in fact.
Of course, romance is not so easy to pull off in practice.
So, here’s a little help with making your next trip, and every one after that, romantic:
Ok, so planning sounds like the opposite of what we’re trying to accomplish here. You’re right. You should not plan every moment of your day because spontaneity is a main ingredient when cooking up romance. But you should do some planning to avoid unnecessary stress that could bring on an argument, which will undoubtedly kill romance. Planning also helps you have the kind of vacation that inspires you.
For instance, my husband and I often travel to Disney World in Orlando, Fla. You might be thinking, “How can Disney, a mecca for the kiddies, be romantic?” Well, we are foodies and enjoy dining in the fancier restaurants. To do this, you have to make advanced dining reservations months ahead of time. So, I do and we end up enjoying hot spots, such as California Grill, where we, hand in hand, once watched the fireworks over Magic Kingdom before sharing a delicious banana dessert with a chocolate plaque that read, “Happy Anniversary.” It was a delicious vacation from start to finish.
The beauty of planning a trip is that it gets you excited for it. Why not get your spouse in the mood for love at the same time? You could set up a countdown calendar with a message for each day leading up to your getaway. If you’re heading to Paris, one message might be, “Je t'aime – 10 days until Paris.” You could also make the countdown more interactive with activities, such as “Croissants are on the table for you – 9 days until we eat the real thing in Paris.” Or you could get sexy with your messages, “8 days until we kiss under the Eiffel Tower.”
Leave the granny panties at home. Pack up your sexy lingerie and all your best outfits. Bring perfume and make-up if that’s what it takes to help you feel sexy. And consider other items, such as candles or rose petals (unless you are traveling internationally in which case plants, or parts of them, are prohibited), to set the mood in your room. A favorite tip of mine is to sneak a love note or a little gift with a message into your unsuspecting spouse’s luggage. Gets ‘em every time.
You might prefer sunbathing and your husband might like taking in the sites of a place. The goal is for both of you to enjoy yourselves because fun puts you in the mood for love. Like everything else, compromise is in order. Maybe the answer is to go to Playa del Carmen in Mexico, where the two of you can spend a few days on the beach and then you can check out the Mayan ruins together during the rest of the week. Enjoying the vacation is key to building passion.
On our Mexican honeymoon, I snuck out of the room one morning and scheduled a couple’s day at the spa for the hubby and me. And while visiting my husband’s family in Ischia, Italy during our first wedding anniversary, he whisked me off to a castle-turned-hotel for one night. While these surprises were expensive, they don’t have to be. With the help of the innkeeper at your B&B, you could plan a picnic for the two of you. If you’re in NYC, you could plan on seeing one of the free concerts outside Good Morning America in Times Square. The point is to spring something unexpected on your beloved, so the trip ends up being even more memorable than he or she anticipated.
There’s never enough time for sex when you’re working. We’ve all been there. But the purpose of a vacation is to have free time when you normally would not. Don’t tire yourselves out taking in sites or soaking up sun too much. Save enough energy to make out like teenagers and round home back at the hotel. Now that’s romantic!
Of course, romance is not so easy to pull off in practice.
So, here’s a little help with making your next trip, and every one after that, romantic:
Plan ahead.
Ok, so planning sounds like the opposite of what we’re trying to accomplish here. You’re right. You should not plan every moment of your day because spontaneity is a main ingredient when cooking up romance. But you should do some planning to avoid unnecessary stress that could bring on an argument, which will undoubtedly kill romance. Planning also helps you have the kind of vacation that inspires you.
For instance, my husband and I often travel to Disney World in Orlando, Fla. You might be thinking, “How can Disney, a mecca for the kiddies, be romantic?” Well, we are foodies and enjoy dining in the fancier restaurants. To do this, you have to make advanced dining reservations months ahead of time. So, I do and we end up enjoying hot spots, such as California Grill, where we, hand in hand, once watched the fireworks over Magic Kingdom before sharing a delicious banana dessert with a chocolate plaque that read, “Happy Anniversary.” It was a delicious vacation from start to finish.
Build up anticipation.
The beauty of planning a trip is that it gets you excited for it. Why not get your spouse in the mood for love at the same time? You could set up a countdown calendar with a message for each day leading up to your getaway. If you’re heading to Paris, one message might be, “Je t'aime – 10 days until Paris.” You could also make the countdown more interactive with activities, such as “Croissants are on the table for you – 9 days until we eat the real thing in Paris.” Or you could get sexy with your messages, “8 days until we kiss under the Eiffel Tower.”
Pack for looooovvvee.
Leave the granny panties at home. Pack up your sexy lingerie and all your best outfits. Bring perfume and make-up if that’s what it takes to help you feel sexy. And consider other items, such as candles or rose petals (unless you are traveling internationally in which case plants, or parts of them, are prohibited), to set the mood in your room. A favorite tip of mine is to sneak a love note or a little gift with a message into your unsuspecting spouse’s luggage. Gets ‘em every time.
Choose activities wisely.
You might prefer sunbathing and your husband might like taking in the sites of a place. The goal is for both of you to enjoy yourselves because fun puts you in the mood for love. Like everything else, compromise is in order. Maybe the answer is to go to Playa del Carmen in Mexico, where the two of you can spend a few days on the beach and then you can check out the Mayan ruins together during the rest of the week. Enjoying the vacation is key to building passion.
Surprise your spouse.
On our Mexican honeymoon, I snuck out of the room one morning and scheduled a couple’s day at the spa for the hubby and me. And while visiting my husband’s family in Ischia, Italy during our first wedding anniversary, he whisked me off to a castle-turned-hotel for one night. While these surprises were expensive, they don’t have to be. With the help of the innkeeper at your B&B, you could plan a picnic for the two of you. If you’re in NYC, you could plan on seeing one of the free concerts outside Good Morning America in Times Square. The point is to spring something unexpected on your beloved, so the trip ends up being even more memorable than he or she anticipated.
Make love.
There’s never enough time for sex when you’re working. We’ve all been there. But the purpose of a vacation is to have free time when you normally would not. Don’t tire yourselves out taking in sites or soaking up sun too much. Save enough energy to make out like teenagers and round home back at the hotel. Now that’s romantic!
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