Things aren't going well, but you don't want divorce to end your marriage.
What can you do?If you don't want divorce there are some specific things you can do to interrupt it.
These tips won't succeed in every circumstance.
A number of relationships are too far gone.
But most marriages begin having problems long before they get to this spot, thankfully.
When you don't want divorce but your partner does, try being silent for a while.
Just don't talk about anything.
Quit complaining.
The worst thing you can do is to carry on about how you don't want to get divorced.
You can let your significant other know that you don't want the divorce.
And that's just about all you can accomplish.
Perhaps you could reassure them that partners go through this kind of issue all the time and are still together now.
Just don't do it more than once.
If you go on and go on about how you want to stay together, you'll probably only annoy your partner, making it less likely for him or her to be open to the thought of staying as one.
The entire intention is to make yourself even more desirable to your partner again.
It's doubtful he or she finds you particularly attractive when you're complaining and whining about inconsequential things.
That tendency to complain and even nag may have had something to do with why the marriage broke up in the first place, remember.
You would like to demonstrate your very best side to your significant other at all times.
When you started dating this person, you were probably on your own very best behavior.
Everybody does that to win a mate's heart.
Then as things start to get old a little because the mate is won and there's no need to compete with others anymore, the tendency to whine and complain starts.
End this at once and go back to your very best "going to win them" courting behavior.
That is often such a switch from the way things were in the beginning, that it seems almost too good to be true.
Going hand in hand with taking care not to complain or nag is learning to simply be agreeable.
We tend to take our significant other for granted and when he or she suggests something we're not happy with, we make it known.
If we do that too often it can begin to seem to our partner that they can't do or say anything good! If you don't want divorce then learn to reach an agreement with your partner even when you don't want to.
That might sound a tiny bit extreme, but you're in survival mode right now.
You just want to do everything you can to save the relationship.
It doesn't' mean that you'll never be able to disagree with them for the rest of your life.
You need to learn to not whine, to reach an agreement and to do it all with a smile on your face.
If you don't want divorce you'll have to figure out these things for at least a little while.