So you've decided to obtain a divorce and you have gone through the process of hiring a divorce lawyer, but they have started working on your case and you do not feel like you have a clue as to where your case is at and what exactly your lawyer is doing.
Now what? Many men find themselves in situations just like you, having no clue as where their case is at or what to do about it, but they all know that whatever their lawyer is doing, it is costing them an arm and a leg.
Don't let this be you! First and foremost, remember your lawyer works for you.
You are not at the mercy of your lawyer, as most lawyers lead their clients to believe.
You are paying them for their services, so you have a right to know exactly where your case stands on a daily basis.
If your case is not making any progress, you have a right to know why and the right to demand what the next steps are going to be.
Now don't get us wrong, we are not advocating that you become a belligerent "pest", but simply that you remain proactive in your case at all times.
It is also important to remember that you are not your lawyer's only client, meaning that if you have hired a divorce lawyer, this lawyer most likely has many clients obtaining a divorce and will often present these cases before the same small number of judges.
It is not in your lawyer's best interests professionally to "rock the boat" for just your case when they might have to see the same judge a few hours later for a different client.
This may also work in your favor as a lawyer may have established a good working relationship with a particular judge, but it is best that you are aware of these professional ties as they can pertain to your case.
If you find that you are just simply at your wits end with your lawyer, it is not unheard of to "demote" or even fire your lawyer and pursue your case Pro Se (representing yourself in court).
If you are nervous to do everything yourself, you can often prepare your paperwork yourself and simply have your lawyer sign off on the paperwork and only represent yourself in the courtroom.
We have helped dozens of fathers take this approach and win.
Remember the most important thing is to remain proactive in your case so that you are comfortable with every step being taken.