How To Confront a Problem and Then Let It Go
This subject is a lot harder for most of you to deal with than you may think.
I bet that you usually let an issue fester in your belly for quite some time until it gets so uncomfortable that it explodes.
Now I bet that problem became a large monster for you and you may not have been able to resolve it.
Yes I realize that confrontation is not easy and for some of you it may be practically impossible for you to do.
Are you one of those people who wait way too long and then it attacks you and then you actually make a mountain out of a mole hill? When ugly emotions go unchecked that is what frequently happens, don't let that happen to you.
Do not allow this to be you as you most often will miss your mark; remember the person you are mad at probably did not do anything to you on purpose.
In fact you may find she did not realize the wrong and will thank you for pointing out this perceived wrong.
Have you always been perfect? Do you think you ever hurt her feelings in the past? If you have known each other for any length of time you can be sure you have previously hurt her feelings, keep that in mind.
That way you will not feel like attacking her.
Why not have, what I call, a serious friend to friend conversation with her? You may wonder when would be the right time; well in my mind the sooner the better.
If not right after the problem surfaced then the next day.
Meet her for a coffee, go visit her and be sure to always keep it private.
This type of situation needs no audience, it is between you and her and no one else.
Good friends can talk to each other about anything.
This is just one of those things.
This is an issue of honesty and a big one.
When you confront her and she asks for your forgiveness, you must truly grant it.
You must tell her you will not speak of it again and that it is now a thing of the past.
It truly must be a thing of the past, if it is not then you are not being honest with your friend.
So as the title states this is how to confront a problem and the "let it go.
" And as always you must live well to be well.
I bet that you usually let an issue fester in your belly for quite some time until it gets so uncomfortable that it explodes.
Now I bet that problem became a large monster for you and you may not have been able to resolve it.
Yes I realize that confrontation is not easy and for some of you it may be practically impossible for you to do.
Are you one of those people who wait way too long and then it attacks you and then you actually make a mountain out of a mole hill? When ugly emotions go unchecked that is what frequently happens, don't let that happen to you.
Do not allow this to be you as you most often will miss your mark; remember the person you are mad at probably did not do anything to you on purpose.
In fact you may find she did not realize the wrong and will thank you for pointing out this perceived wrong.
Have you always been perfect? Do you think you ever hurt her feelings in the past? If you have known each other for any length of time you can be sure you have previously hurt her feelings, keep that in mind.
That way you will not feel like attacking her.
Why not have, what I call, a serious friend to friend conversation with her? You may wonder when would be the right time; well in my mind the sooner the better.
If not right after the problem surfaced then the next day.
Meet her for a coffee, go visit her and be sure to always keep it private.
This type of situation needs no audience, it is between you and her and no one else.
Good friends can talk to each other about anything.
This is just one of those things.
This is an issue of honesty and a big one.
When you confront her and she asks for your forgiveness, you must truly grant it.
You must tell her you will not speak of it again and that it is now a thing of the past.
It truly must be a thing of the past, if it is not then you are not being honest with your friend.
So as the title states this is how to confront a problem and the "let it go.
" And as always you must live well to be well.
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