3 Keys to His Heart: How to Get His Attention When You Think He"s No Longer Interested
Your marriage may be on the rocks, but you're not stranded yet. In other words, there's still hope for a rescue and perhaps even full recovery. How? If you apply these simple techniques I'm covering in this article to your relationship, you've got a great chance of getting his attention once again. Even if you're afraid he's already written you off or emotionally moved on.
Let's start off with the easiest one first. Genuinely approach your husband, asking him how his day went, what projects he's working on, and in general, how he's doing. Don't be surprised if he's a little shocked that you still cared.
Make a special effort to listen and communicate that you're there for him and that you want to know what's going on in his world. If he's suspicious of your renewed interest in him and he snaps, "what's it to you?" breath deeply, and respond that you're trying something new. Try using phrases like, "tell me more about that," "that makes sense," "it sounds like you feel that...", and so on to keep the conversation going.
Human beings tend to be critical by nature. That's why it's so easy for us to judge our spouse, and use harsh, negative words when we're carrying on conversations, especially with our husband, who we're supposed to love and respect. Though a critical, nagging wife may be little more than a TV stereotype, in some marriages, this image may be a painful reality. No one likes to be nagged, or reminded of something (all the time).
Think about it; how do you best respond to your husband? When he's encouraging, uplifting and positive with his words, or the opposite? That should go for you as well. Despite your inclination to ask him to take out the trash as he promised for the 7th time this week, find things you appreciate about your husband, then tell him about it. Encouragement can go a long in conveying the respect your spouse craves in your marriage.
I've saved the toughest decision or technique for last. Deciding to show an interest in your husband may not be that hard for you. Even letting him know you respect him by ceasing and desisting from your criticism - though more of a challenge - is still doable. This next one will take a little bit more out of you, especially if you two are no longer that close in the intimacy department.
Yes, I'm talking about sex. How much would it really hurt you to say yes once in a while? Here's a little bit of insight. Men often feel loved through sex, while women have sex to feel loved. When you say yes to the bedroom, you're really saying yes to your relationship. You're communicating that you love him in the simplest manner possible.
You may feel that it's going to be a struggle implementing these techniques in your relationship. After all, it takes two, and since he's no longer willing, you're doing all the work.
Yet, making a consistent effort to convey that you're interested in your husband, his work, and what he cares about, respecting him by eliminating your nagging or criticism, and saying yes to sex more than you think he's got a right to will likely go far in improving your marriage. It may even help light the fire all over again. Who knows?
Let's start off with the easiest one first. Genuinely approach your husband, asking him how his day went, what projects he's working on, and in general, how he's doing. Don't be surprised if he's a little shocked that you still cared.
Make a special effort to listen and communicate that you're there for him and that you want to know what's going on in his world. If he's suspicious of your renewed interest in him and he snaps, "what's it to you?" breath deeply, and respond that you're trying something new. Try using phrases like, "tell me more about that," "that makes sense," "it sounds like you feel that...", and so on to keep the conversation going.
Human beings tend to be critical by nature. That's why it's so easy for us to judge our spouse, and use harsh, negative words when we're carrying on conversations, especially with our husband, who we're supposed to love and respect. Though a critical, nagging wife may be little more than a TV stereotype, in some marriages, this image may be a painful reality. No one likes to be nagged, or reminded of something (all the time).
Think about it; how do you best respond to your husband? When he's encouraging, uplifting and positive with his words, or the opposite? That should go for you as well. Despite your inclination to ask him to take out the trash as he promised for the 7th time this week, find things you appreciate about your husband, then tell him about it. Encouragement can go a long in conveying the respect your spouse craves in your marriage.
I've saved the toughest decision or technique for last. Deciding to show an interest in your husband may not be that hard for you. Even letting him know you respect him by ceasing and desisting from your criticism - though more of a challenge - is still doable. This next one will take a little bit more out of you, especially if you two are no longer that close in the intimacy department.
Yes, I'm talking about sex. How much would it really hurt you to say yes once in a while? Here's a little bit of insight. Men often feel loved through sex, while women have sex to feel loved. When you say yes to the bedroom, you're really saying yes to your relationship. You're communicating that you love him in the simplest manner possible.
You may feel that it's going to be a struggle implementing these techniques in your relationship. After all, it takes two, and since he's no longer willing, you're doing all the work.
Yet, making a consistent effort to convey that you're interested in your husband, his work, and what he cares about, respecting him by eliminating your nagging or criticism, and saying yes to sex more than you think he's got a right to will likely go far in improving your marriage. It may even help light the fire all over again. Who knows?
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