Does your marriage make you feel as though you have just been raked over a bed of hot coals? Are you currently going through a rough patch in your marriage?
If you are, is it because either you or your spouse are surviving an emotional affair and need some extra help?
Then hopefully, this article will shed some much needed light on why affairs happen, and provide you with a few tips on how you can rebuild your marriage and help it to thrive again.

I am certain that you are going through a pretty rough time, but don't cut the rope just yet, because things can, and do, get better after the affair.

Understanding affairs and why they happen.

First of all, a physical affair - affairs of lust - are the easiest to get over. The reason this is so is because they are often just affairs that happen on the spur of the moment. They are not premeditated and there wasn't any intention to do any harm. Woops! Before I new it I had my pants off kind of situations. A loss of control, so to speak. Such affairs are easier to get over because they do not involve love. There is no emotional connection.

Emotional affairs are a totally different kettle of fish and usually contain an element of love. But they are not always physical. Emotional affairs usually occur when either spouse fonds a gap that needs to be filled. They are searching for the things that they are not getting in their marriage. It could simply be appreciation or admiration.

So to survive an emotional affair it is necessary to find ways in which to fill the gaps and plug the holes.

Fighting the symptoms is ineffectual but if you keep the symptoms alive, the core problem remains the same and will continue to be a problem in the future.

Therefore it becomes necessary to:-
A) Find a bigger bucket, continue baling and hope for the best.

Or...

B) Get the after the affair help you need to plug the holes and fill the gaps in HMAS Your Marriage to give it the best possible chance of recovery.