HOW TO STOP A DIVORCE A marriage is a beautiful union formed by two people who love each other.
However, love dims with time and many marriages do end up in divorce.
It is important that you understand the dynamics of a marriage and to spot any problems.
Understand the needs of your spouse and never neglect any problems that arise, however small they are..
During the first few months, the marriage is usually full of euphoria and the couple spends most of their free time together.
At this stage, everything seems perfect and the texting, calls and even sex is frequent.
Over time, everything becomes routine and the couple could even be bored of each other.
It is up to both parties to bring back the spontaneity and light in the marriage.
Do something out of the ordinary like a surprise dinner, a trip or even a movie.
It is important to do this often so that your spouse is consistently intrigued and interested in you.
Most important, you must be aware that there is no perfect person in the world.
Everyone has flaws so you must appreciate your spouse the way he/she is.
Take keen interest in your partner and know everything about them e.
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their jobs, hobbies, family, and passion.
This will make your partner feel safe and able to share his/her feelings.
If you do not adhere to this, your spouse will seek attention elsewhere.
When you have problems and you're constantly arguing, seek advice from a counselor.
The counselor is impartial and will help you communicate better.
The harsh reality about life is that we all die someday.
Life is short so it is wise to address any problems that will arise in a marriage immediately.
HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK A break-up is a very bad and depressing experience.
When you do a personal evaluation and realize that you want your ex back, there are a few basic rules that you must observe.
It is all a matter of human psychology which is very predictable.
Firstly, avoid begging.
This is a very unattractive sight and it's actually repugnant.
Do not send many texts or call especially when drunk.
This gives your ex power over you and you do not gain any respect.
Once you lose your respect, your ex will begin to look for someone else.
Another common mistake is arguing like a 'know-it-all'.
Breakups are not logical and are on an emotional level.
Your ex will be mad at you.
It is important not to shower your ex with gifts.
Interestingly, this is route that most people take to try win their ex back.
The logic is that they chose to be with you prior to the break-up.
The gifts do not change how they really feel about you.
If you decide to do too much like spending huge amounts of money, your ex might even question your belief in his/her integrity.
Lastly, do not go crazy when you see your ex with someone else.
This relationship is most probably a rebound.
They may appear affectionate but the rebound is there to fill the void you left.
It may even be a stunt to make you jealous.
If you get angry, your ex may even prolong the fling just to get on your nerve.
Keep your cool and greet them graciously.
This usually makes your ex think more about you and it improves your self-respect.
He/she will evaluate the rebound relationship and probably end it.
Remember to follow the above rules and then talk to your ex.
Explain how you feel and be apologetic.
It is essential to give your ex time to think and if they really want you back, it will work.