You have a marriage in crisis mode, the two of you are either bickering or not talking at all.
Does this mean the end of the marriage? Not if you are determined to save your marriage with some effort.
One thing for sure is that the problems in your marriage will just become worse if you ignore them so there is no time to lose.
You need to know how to repair your marriage and get started with the task.
Once love has gone cold between you some of the things you need to do to help a marriage in crisis can be somewhat uncomfortable to do.
When you were first in love you would have thought nothing of doing these things but now it's different.
The effort is worth the end result, though, when you tackle your problems head on and find solutions that will ultimately find you back in each others arms in a loving relationship.
If the two of you are married then it means at one point you both loved and cared for each other deeply, right? What likely got in the way of that was simply the troubles and concerns of life, jobs and family.
This happens to most every married couple at some time or another.
Arguing and bickering in a relationship can be signs of frustration with life's problems and not necessarily each other.
Although little foibles with your personalities that once may have been considered "cute" can quickly turn to a huge annoyance when life gets tough.
Once the problems start to interfere with your daily interaction together the problem quickly causes separation in the bedroom as well.
This simply compounds the problems.
The way to start resolving the issues and find solutions for saving your marriage is to begin talking about them.
There need to be rational discussions that do not turn into arguments or blame games.
Try to identify areas of stress in your life and see if they can be reduced or eliminated.
Start by making lists of what needs to change in your life and put target dates to begin working on each item.
Deciding that some items on that list do not need to be dealt with right away can ease some of the tension in life and allow you to conquer simpler, more immediate needs.
Here comes a real critical next step, which can be key in repairing your marriage.
Find areas of stress in your spouse's life and see what you can do to help reduce or eliminate items on his or her "list".
Thinking about your spouse's needs has two benefits: First, you are focusing on someone else.
This almost always has positive therapeutic effects and will make you feel more relaxed and comfortable.
Second, your spouse will likely realize your care, concern and help with their life and feel much more favorable toward you as a result.
See if you can find out, if you do not already know, what restaurant your spouse would really like to go to.
If your budget allows, follow up with a movie he or she would want to see.
Have a sitter look after the kids for you when you do this, do NOT try to drag them along.
In fact, try not to talk about them at all when on a "date" with your spouse.
The two of you need time alone to work out the issues with your marriage and even to see if you can just enjoy some time together like you used to back when life was more simple.
This can do wonders to repair your marriage.