Once you have decided to win your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband back to love you again no matter what caused the break up, you need a sound mind and strategy to win your ex back.
Like every good thing that is worth having, you must be committed to carry through with your plans and strategy.
Here are three unpleasant things you must swiftly avoid when you are planning on a strategy to win your ex back.
A sound mind and strategy is required to win any important warfare.
When you become victorious, your friends and family members will respect and admire your strength of character, determination and doggedness.
As a good strategist, you must avoid making contact too soon with your ex after a break up.
Pretend as if you are not bothered with the break up.
Avoid making any call or sending any messages.
If you hurriedly make contact with your ex, the chances of fixing your relationship will be sabotaged.
This looks counter intuitive, but you must be prepared for a real test of your character by staying out of sight for a period of 4 - 8 weeks before you decide to get in touch with your ex.
During the period of waiting and staying out of sight, what should you be doing to win your ex back? This is the time to transform your mind and renew your thinking about your love relationship.
Have you being self-sabotaging your relationship with your partner? Do you work so hard to tame and change your ex instead of working on yourself? Do you find it hard to show kindness and compassion to the one you love? Most people think that they can get back together win an ex by begging, crawling on their knees to demonstrate their love and crying.
This strategy will not work in your favor.
Your ex will even turn you into an object of fun and laughter.
What you must quickly do is to renew your mind.
What are the things you were doing to cause the break up? This is the time to change your character.
Do you insult and abuse your ex? Do you speak without respect to your ex? Do you reveal your partner's secrets to third parties? You must systematically change your ways to make your ex desire and want you again.
However, you must know that life continues despite a break up.
To successfully execute your strategy you must be confident and calm before you approach your ex.
Your strategy must be well in place before you ever make your first contact.
When you meet with your ex, do not show signs of desperation and do not be too eager to hug or kiss your ex.
Do not give your ex any iota of doubt that you want to take advantage.
This is the time to demonstrate your renewed and transformed individuality.
Do not bring up the past or place blames.
This is when you show talk as if the past never existed.
Also important is the type of advice you take from your friends when you want to attract your ex back into your life.
Take advice from only those who have a sound record of success in their relationship.
Do not take advice from a man or girl cheating on his partner.
They will lead you astray! Once you are ready to win your ex back, simply ask but never you beg or plead.
It is the asking part that most people do not know how to do.
They are more comfortable with begging and crying, which can never help you to win your ex back