So your husband said he wants a divorce.
Even if it was one of the worst moments of your life, you should actually be grateful.
Instead of living a life of denial and humdrum existence, you can use this time as a chance to restart your life together.
In fact, you can use this as a way to make your marriage better than it used to be -- even better than when you first got together! You just need to change his mind about the divorce and get him on board.
But how? Think about this: men want to be appreciated, just like we do.
But men feel appreciation in a different way.
You might say thank you to your husband for helping out around the house.
Or you might even tell him that you appreciate the gifts he gives you, or what a hard worker he is.
But he might not be feeling appreciated.
He might hear what you're saying, but it might not be how he shows and feels love.
If your husband said he wants a divorce, the quickest way you can change his mind is to show him that you do love him and appreciate him.
You just need to show him more on his terms.
Most men like to feel like they are the Knight in Shining Armour.
In fact, a lot of affairs don't really happen because of physical attractiveness, they happen because the new person makes your husband feel more attractive and appreciated.
How? By telling him that he is like no one else.
He can swoop in and be the "big strong man" that doesn't have problems and doesn't get nagged about putting his dirty laundry in the hamper.
The more you can do right now to help your husband feel like he is your hero, the better.
But if you want to change his mind about the divorce, you will have to make sure that it doesn't come across like you are trying too hard.
Don't compliment him twenty-four-seven.
Instead, when you notice him doing things, then tell him how much you appreciate it.
Think about what makes your husband tick.
It is even helpful to think about what he does to show you he loves you, and then do the same for him.