Getting a divorce can be difficult, but when you have children, getting a divorce can be downright traumatic not only for you but most especially for your children.
Studies have shown that children who have seen their parents split are always almost automatically psychologically disturbed, and most of them will bring this burden all throughout their lives.
In order to shield them from irreparable damage, it is your duty as a parent to make sure that your children cope well with the divorce.
When your children finally ask why you and your spouse are splitting up, it's best not to tell them the whole truth.
Of course, do not sugar-coat things, but do not also go into too much detail.
This will confuse their sense of self and importance.
Tell them that their parents have tried as hard as they could but they still end up fighting all the time and that it's wiser to just stop living together.
Let your children know what's going on without causing them too much pain.
Of course, no matter what you choose to say, your children will still be hurt.
Make them feel as whole as possible.
Do not blame or bad mouth the other parent, or you might lose their respect for you.
Spend as much time with them as you can.
Hang out with them but let them have their space if they ask for it.
This can help you get through to them when the reality of divorce sets in.