How to Be Charming on a First Date
- 1). Think of it as less of a date and more as a fun night out. If you approach the date with the goal of trying to impress her, she is going to notice and sense desperation. Rather, think of it this way: you are going to have a drink with someone you want to get to know. She may end up dating you or you may end up making a friend. Either way, just focus on having fun just as you would on your nights out with your friends. This will make you more calm and laid back, which will make your natural charm come through.
- 2). Show some mystery. Don't tell your date every single thing about yourself. If she knows a few things about you, but still wonders what else there is to learn, then she will likely find you charming and intriguing. Tell her a few key, positive things about yourself but don't tell her every single thing there is to know.
- 3). Smile and laugh. Be positive. Don't talk about how you hate your job or that your roommates are a drag; the odds are your date gets annoyed with his job from time to time and his roommates probably frustrate him, too. Positivity is charming.
- 4). Compliment him a little bit, but don't heap it on because that will be awkward and make him feel uncomfortable. Rather, just give him one unique, sincere compliment that leaves him wanting more compliments. Tell him something specific, such as "that red shirt is a really nice color on you," as this will make him feel special and make you more charming.
- 5). Ask questions about your date's life, job, and hobbies, then take the time to listen to her answers. If you give her a chance to talk about herself and actively listen by rephrasing her answers and maintaining eye contact, you will make her feel valued and important, which will make you more charming.
- 6). Be yourself. People can smell phoniness a mile away, so don't agree with things you wouldn't otherwise agree with and don't try to be who you feel your date wants you to be.
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