I want to tell you what you have to do to avoid that the same thing happens to you.
But before that, I want to let you know that almost the totality of newly wedded people are not prepared for the harsh reality of living together and the bad consequences of not knowing this might represent for them, and which ultimately may put an end to their happiness and bring separation or divorce for too many of them.
The first thing I'm going to say, and that may sound silly to you at this time, is this: Start making plans to avoid a separation or divorce right now, while your love is still fresh and strong.
You know why? Because all important steps and decisions must be planned in advance, and marriage is the most important thing right now in your life.
Also, this is the best time to plan that, because your relationship has no scars left from disagreements, fights or any other major problems that would otherwise make it difficult to do.
  How do you plan something like that? You take a moment when you are alone and when you are rested and calm.
That's the best time to take any decisions, by the way.
You set down at a table and each of you prepare a list of things that you wouldn't want your partner to do, and a separate list of things that you'd like for them to do.
Both lists will also include things related with sex, so leave your shyness on the side and get to work.
After you have completed your lists, then you discuss the results and the feasibility of all items on the lists.
If there's anything you disagree on.
Go back to them for a second round of discussions.
When you finally get to a unanimous decision, you swear to each other that you will abide by those relationship rules.
A little celebration would also be nice as this, believe it or not, will be an important mark in your lives.
Once you do that, right it down in your diary or type it all on a document and save it to a folder in your computer.
Promise to each other that every six months or so you will have a 'confirmation' day where the both of you read that file and afterwards you do something different, like a candle light dinner for two followed by a passionate love session, etc.
  To make sure that your relationship doesn't get stale you should also plan monthly and annual events that both of you like, such as outings to the countryside, musical concerts, go to places both of you like and enjoy etc.
Pick the a both of you like best and elect it "your place".
That's where you go to celebrate anything important that happens in your life.
You should also pick you very special music, one that touches your heart deeply.
Listen to that music every once in a while to bring back all those dear moments of your life.
And when you go to "your place" make sure to ask the band or the piano player to play "your music" and dance to it.
While you're dancing, renew your vows of forever loving each other and sticking together no matter what.
  Be prepared to face crucial situations, eventual disagreements and hardships.
Those happen to every couple, everywhere in the world.
An extremely important thing to remember is: DO NOT offend each other in a personal way, because that causes deep scars which are hard and take long time to heal.
  Learn to apologize if you think you hurt your partners feelings.
This is also very important!  Here are my last advices to you: Never forget the great love you have, because that is the biggest treasure you have.
People who forget that, will end up unhappy and miserable for having lost the one person that was so very important to them.
People who keep exchanging partners have a very minuscule chance of ever being truly happy, because they don't stay long enough with whomever they share their lives with.
Before they know it, they will be too old and it will too late for them.
  If you stick together you will soon realize of how great life can be to people who love and stay with each other for a long time.
The longer you stay together, the better your chances to be together for the rest of your lives.
And the longer you stay together the lesser your chances of ever separating from each other and the stronger your love will become and the happier you will be.
  I sincerely wish you follow my advices.
If you do, I know you will remember me with gratitude and you will pass these advices to other people you know and care for.
Like I care for you.