Should I Contact My Ex?
It's a question that's on everybody's mind who's broken up with the love of his or her life: "Should I call?" I know you're in pain over this breakup, but you need to play this cool...there are a lot of reasons why you should NOT call your ex, at least not for a certain amount of time.
After a breakup, it's important the couple takes a break from one another...being in each other's lives all the time is what probably broke you up, and absence will never make the heart grow fonder if you're not absent. Cutting of intentional contact as soon as the breakup happens is an important way to speed up everybody's healing and let you both think about what needs to happen for the future.
If you yearn so badly to have her back, or just can't stand to go on without feeling his touch again, then it's okay to try to get your ex back...but that doesn't mean you don't need this breaktime. Give it about a month, that's enough time to get your head straight, sort out how you feel and what you need to do, and come to a plan on how to do it. It's also enough time for your ex to do the same sort of thing.
So keep this break as a break. That means no phone calls, no text messages, no emails, no hanging around places you know your ex frequents...if you have a class together or pass on the street by chance, be polite but not personal. The point of this is to be separated for a while, so that you can grow more together...that may not be how your partner originally envisioned it, but that's how it could work out for you...if you just play it cool!
Of course you'll have the worry of your ex finding somebody new in that month...rebounds are pretty common, and sometimes they develop into something more...but you can't beat yourself up about it. In order to get on with your life regardless of whether or not you get your ex back, you need to accept the possibility that the two of you aren't perfect for one another. You can still make it work even if that's the case...but there comes a line that when it's crossed, you need to let go.
But the important thing, and the point of this article, is for you to know that it's NOT a good idea to deliberately contact your ex for about a month after the breakup. It just causes more stress on the relationship without easing back to let it heal. From there you can do however you feel you need to, either to move on and search for your soulmate or to try to get your ex back. Whichever your choice is, good luck.
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After a breakup, it's important the couple takes a break from one another...being in each other's lives all the time is what probably broke you up, and absence will never make the heart grow fonder if you're not absent. Cutting of intentional contact as soon as the breakup happens is an important way to speed up everybody's healing and let you both think about what needs to happen for the future.
If you yearn so badly to have her back, or just can't stand to go on without feeling his touch again, then it's okay to try to get your ex back...but that doesn't mean you don't need this breaktime. Give it about a month, that's enough time to get your head straight, sort out how you feel and what you need to do, and come to a plan on how to do it. It's also enough time for your ex to do the same sort of thing.
So keep this break as a break. That means no phone calls, no text messages, no emails, no hanging around places you know your ex frequents...if you have a class together or pass on the street by chance, be polite but not personal. The point of this is to be separated for a while, so that you can grow more together...that may not be how your partner originally envisioned it, but that's how it could work out for you...if you just play it cool!
Of course you'll have the worry of your ex finding somebody new in that month...rebounds are pretty common, and sometimes they develop into something more...but you can't beat yourself up about it. In order to get on with your life regardless of whether or not you get your ex back, you need to accept the possibility that the two of you aren't perfect for one another. You can still make it work even if that's the case...but there comes a line that when it's crossed, you need to let go.
But the important thing, and the point of this article, is for you to know that it's NOT a good idea to deliberately contact your ex for about a month after the breakup. It just causes more stress on the relationship without easing back to let it heal. From there you can do however you feel you need to, either to move on and search for your soulmate or to try to get your ex back. Whichever your choice is, good luck.
Just break up? Get instant relief from break up pain and a proven plan to get your ex back.
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