Keep It Simple Stupid. The best approach in most situations. Where it comes to having good sex, this is also the case.

Let this be a guide for you on how to have good sex. By following a few simple rules, you will take your sex life to normal (which is a bit mediocre) to great.

The most common mistakes are:

1. Not relaxing and doing what you feel like doing: Making love and sexual intercourse has been done for thousands of years. Men and women have let go and been in the moment with their passionate desires for centuries.
   
   But, arguably, today we are more inhibited in the bedroom than ever before. The constant barrage of information on the subject in the news makes us a lot more insecure about it.
   
   What is the right way to do it? What is the wrong way? What does your partner most desire?
   
   The first rule of good sex is letting go. Just doing what you feel like doing. You have thousands of years of evolutionary programming enticing you to have passionate sex, but the vast majority of us suppress these drives.
   
   Worse. We are constantly foreseeing during sex, rather than being fully present. We are too befuddled to fully enjoy or allow our partner to enjoy it.
   
   So the first rule is. "Just Let Go"
   
   
2. Not listening to your partner's body: Most people are bad sexual communicators. They don't verbalize exactly how they are feeling, what feels good, what feels bad. They leave it to the other person to figure it out through guess work.
   
   That's not true though. You don't have to guess. You just have to take notice of what is happening to your partner. Each of us gives lots of signals during sex as to how it is really feeling and what we like.
   
   However, most of us are not paying attention to the right things. We may, paradoxically, be putting too much focus on what our partner says. Rather than actually picking up on them.
   
   By this I mean tune into what their body says. How does it move. Toward or away from your touch. What color is the skin. Is it flushed? Where are the eyes... are they looking at you? Or half closed in passion? These are some of the subtle but clear signals of how the sex is for your partner.
   
   The second rule is: "Listen to your partners body above all else".
   
3. Not talking about sex: You should never talk too much about sex while you are actually doing it. That would lead you to break the first and second rules.
   
   But... you should absolutely talk about sex. After sex when you are both hanging loose is the most opportune time. You are still free and loose having just been intimate.
   
   Next time you are sojourning in bed after sex with your beloved. Start discussing how it felt. Or what you liked. Encourage your partner to do the same. This is a natural thing. Giggle about parts of the sexual encounter that didn't work out well.
   
   Just be genuine about it. It's the perfect time. Your genuineness and honesty will lead your partner to do the same. Soon you'll be sharing more of your greatest sexual desires. This can only help to promote your understanding of both of your sexual needs, and break down the barriers to intimacy.
   
   The third rule is: "Talk about sex after sex."
   

You can learn a lot more about how to have good sex from the large number of sexual skills advice that is now available. Sexual skills advice is a sub-segment of dating advice for guys.