How to Get Your Ex Back - 3 Things You Must Not Do
Here are three things you don't want to do right after a break up if you plan to try to make the relationship work.
The time right after you separate is delicate.
Emotions are running high and most likely at least one of you has a short fuse and high stress levels.
You each either want desperately to get away completely or get back together again.
A very common mistake is to rush back and try to convince your ex to be with you.
To manipulate, to promise, to threaten, and to beg to give it another try.
Before you go off and do something that will hurt your chance of getting back together you need to stop and take a deep breath.
Then take a few minutes to discover 3 behaviors you need to avoid if you want any chance at all of reconciliation.
1.
Don't keep contacting your ex, right after the break up, trying to get back together.
Give your ex space.
Especially if it was your ex that broke the relationship off.
It's human nature to pull away when someone tries to get you to do something you don't want to do.
You both need time to cool off and think things through.
Who knows, maybe your ex will want you back after you've been apart for a while.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder you know.
2.
Don't continue to fight and argue.
This is part of the reason you broke up in the first place.
You need to find a better way to deal with your frustration and anger.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Ignore it.
Overlook it and then forget about it.
Purge it from your mind.
If you don't it will become the seed of future fights and arguments.
Rise above pettiness.
3.
Don't try to change your ex.
It can't be done.
The only person you can change is yourself.
You need to become the person that your ex can accept and love.
You need to become more understanding.
You need to become more tolerant.
If you try her, she will resent it.
It will drive you further apart.
The only way you can repair the relationship is to accept your ex as is.
Then change yourself so she will accept you.
Take some time to cool off and avoid these 3 common mistakes.
Treat your ex in this manner to show you take the break up seriously.
It will probably take her by surprise.
It will also give you the opportunity down the road to build a new relationship based on trust and mutual respect.
The time right after you separate is delicate.
Emotions are running high and most likely at least one of you has a short fuse and high stress levels.
You each either want desperately to get away completely or get back together again.
A very common mistake is to rush back and try to convince your ex to be with you.
To manipulate, to promise, to threaten, and to beg to give it another try.
Before you go off and do something that will hurt your chance of getting back together you need to stop and take a deep breath.
Then take a few minutes to discover 3 behaviors you need to avoid if you want any chance at all of reconciliation.
1.
Don't keep contacting your ex, right after the break up, trying to get back together.
Give your ex space.
Especially if it was your ex that broke the relationship off.
It's human nature to pull away when someone tries to get you to do something you don't want to do.
You both need time to cool off and think things through.
Who knows, maybe your ex will want you back after you've been apart for a while.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder you know.
2.
Don't continue to fight and argue.
This is part of the reason you broke up in the first place.
You need to find a better way to deal with your frustration and anger.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Ignore it.
Overlook it and then forget about it.
Purge it from your mind.
If you don't it will become the seed of future fights and arguments.
Rise above pettiness.
3.
Don't try to change your ex.
It can't be done.
The only person you can change is yourself.
You need to become the person that your ex can accept and love.
You need to become more understanding.
You need to become more tolerant.
If you try her, she will resent it.
It will drive you further apart.
The only way you can repair the relationship is to accept your ex as is.
Then change yourself so she will accept you.
Take some time to cool off and avoid these 3 common mistakes.
Treat your ex in this manner to show you take the break up seriously.
It will probably take her by surprise.
It will also give you the opportunity down the road to build a new relationship based on trust and mutual respect.
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