When you have been married or in a relationship for a long time, it can be hard to keep that spark alive.
You fall into routines and there never seems to be time to go out together or do the things you used to so easily find time for.
Many people enter into a marriage or relationship without realizing how much work it actually takes to maintain it.
When the initial excitement over each other has passed, the relationship may seem to become boring.
This is why people tend to break up or divorce, usually it's not because of some huge problems, more often than not people will break up simply because they got bored.
So it pays to put a little extra effort into a relationship to prevent boredom.
The following tips should help you stay off that path of boredom.
Don't get too comfortable You may think this goes without saying, but you need to make a conscious effort with your appearance.
Often when two people have been together for so long they become too familiar.
They no longer spend that extra time and effort on trying to look their best.
But you should still try.
Buy some new clothes every now and then, put on that aftershave, exercise and stay in shape.
All of these things can help prevent boredom.
Be Romantic Try to remember how it was when you first started going out.
You probably went out to dinner a lot more.
You probably brought flowers, left notes around the house or sent each other texts or emails throughout the day.
Cook a meal together and be flirtatious with each other.
It's easy to lose that fun you used to have when you are under pressure from work, and there seems to be so much to do, but these extra little things can really help.
Spending time together is very important in a marriage.
Don't be predictable Try to do something out of the ordinary every now and then.
Make an unexpected lunch date, or bring your partner breakfast in bed, give a full body massage.
Obviously you can't plan spontaneity, but there are lots of these little things you can do to keep things exciting, it just might take a bit more effort than it did at the beginning of your relationship.
Being spontaneous is a sure way to keep the boredom away.
Make sex one of your priorities Sex is a very important part of any relationship or marriage.
Not having sex is the first step towards becoming bored with each other.
Sex is good for many things, it can reduce stress, it keeps things fun, it can help you sleep well and it also helps you to feel closer to your partner.
Maybe you need a change of setting, try taking your loved one to a hotel room or some other part of the house, and keep it fun; having sex should never feel like a chore.
Keeping the intimacy in your relationship is vital.