Perspective - How The View-from-two Creates Relationship
The view-from-two changes relationships. They are no longer useful for fulfilling our needs at the expense of the others, because that abuse comes with the pain from the others view. Relationships become places to give to fulfill shared needs.
Surprisingly, the view-from-two both removes exploitation and gives us a more insightful way to deal with reality. Two see more fully than one. Because we each have a different perspective, especially given masculine and feminine differences, each holds different things as significant. One partner can literally see into the places in which the other is blind. The view-from-two gets us closer to truth. Without it were not suited for intimate relationship. The view from two opens the possibility of reliably, fulfilling relationships.
Learning the view-from-two is like learning a second language. It takes about a year of concentrated training, monthly lessons and weekly practice to become fluent in the skills. From fluency to mastery depends upon each persons purposes.
Once we can view-from-two, it doesnt take too much to expand into the view from three and from four. With that, parenting changes dramatically. It allows us to experience our childrens needs and address them powerfully and effectively. It has the added benefit of modeling how to view-from-two, so it teaches children how to do relationships.
From the view-from-two, three and four, the view from every human being becomes possible. When we can view from the perspective of each person we engage with, our community will change. Conflict and the need for litigation and conflict resolution will drop dramatically. More importantly, we can reduce our personal competitive focus on our own acquisitions, and the race for rare extremes of wealth. This can avoid our periodic financial collapse and our common poverty.
From the fluidity of multiple perspectives, most conflict can be seen as the illusions we create and argue over. By acquiring the 7 essential skills and by recognizing we dont know truth and those with different views are equally ignorant with us, we can remove the separation that creates conflict. We can view-from-two and then from the human perspective instead of from our separated one. This ends separation, the existence of enemies and most ordinary conflicts and leaves us with fulfilling relationships.
Surprisingly, the view-from-two both removes exploitation and gives us a more insightful way to deal with reality. Two see more fully than one. Because we each have a different perspective, especially given masculine and feminine differences, each holds different things as significant. One partner can literally see into the places in which the other is blind. The view-from-two gets us closer to truth. Without it were not suited for intimate relationship. The view from two opens the possibility of reliably, fulfilling relationships.
Learning the view-from-two is like learning a second language. It takes about a year of concentrated training, monthly lessons and weekly practice to become fluent in the skills. From fluency to mastery depends upon each persons purposes.
Once we can view-from-two, it doesnt take too much to expand into the view from three and from four. With that, parenting changes dramatically. It allows us to experience our childrens needs and address them powerfully and effectively. It has the added benefit of modeling how to view-from-two, so it teaches children how to do relationships.
From the view-from-two, three and four, the view from every human being becomes possible. When we can view from the perspective of each person we engage with, our community will change. Conflict and the need for litigation and conflict resolution will drop dramatically. More importantly, we can reduce our personal competitive focus on our own acquisitions, and the race for rare extremes of wealth. This can avoid our periodic financial collapse and our common poverty.
From the fluidity of multiple perspectives, most conflict can be seen as the illusions we create and argue over. By acquiring the 7 essential skills and by recognizing we dont know truth and those with different views are equally ignorant with us, we can remove the separation that creates conflict. We can view-from-two and then from the human perspective instead of from our separated one. This ends separation, the existence of enemies and most ordinary conflicts and leaves us with fulfilling relationships.
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