True Love And Fake Love - A Clarification
A person infatuated with someone else could still be considered to be a fake lover, because he or she has only been attracted to the opposite sex and, it could be that the person being admired is not even aware of that.
It could also happen that there be a mutual attraction.
This mutual attraction could cause in them a slight and burning sensation and a desire to get to together.
But that desire to "get together" soon ends if either of them leaves the scene.
For love to be said to be a true one, it must be felt in the hearts of both parties.
True love is all-inclusive and pervasive than mere infatuation.
If you truly love someone, you love everything about him or her.
Do not say: " I admire him or her", because your admiration of someone could only be dependent upon a particular characteristic or trait in the one being admired.
For instance: "I admire him for his eloquence; I admire her round face, her big blue eyes, or her blond hair".
Your admiration for this person could make tears drop down freely from your cheeks, and make the rest of your day dreamy and relaxed; yet still, you will not be said to have fallen headlong in love.
No matter the intensity of your admiration, it does not reach the degree of true love.
The Holy Qur'an says about two (married) lovers: "...
They are your garments And ye are their garments...
" (Qur'an, Chapter 2, Verse 187).
This is an eloquent description of true love.
The fabric used in making this garment is love; the threads used in sewing it is love; and finally, the embroidery on the garment is also love - true love for that matter.
Men and women are one another's garment.
They are for mutual support; mutual comfort; mutual protection; fitting into each other as a garment fits the body.
Let's bear in mind that the "garments" above are custom-made.
They are supposed to be made as the buyer specifies.
You would not purchase a garment you don't like.
So to speak, you would not become a garment for someone you don't love.
This is a clear indictment of some Muslims who force their young girls to marry men they would otherwise not marry.
There should never be a marriage that is devoid of mutual love.
Much to this writer's indignation, this practice is still very common in some Muslim communities in Africa, the Middle East, South Asia and Southeast Asia.
Therefore, from the above clarification, being infatuated with someone cannot be equated to being in love.
To this writer, you are only an admirer and would not necessarily qualify as a true lover.
The marked difference between a fake lover and a true lover is the longevity and intensity of his or her relationship with the opposite sex.
Relationships between "lovers" could be intense but short - indeed as short as a one night stand.
It could also last longer, but would still lack the closeness and/or intensity associated with true lovers.
It could also happen that there be a mutual attraction.
This mutual attraction could cause in them a slight and burning sensation and a desire to get to together.
But that desire to "get together" soon ends if either of them leaves the scene.
For love to be said to be a true one, it must be felt in the hearts of both parties.
True love is all-inclusive and pervasive than mere infatuation.
If you truly love someone, you love everything about him or her.
Do not say: " I admire him or her", because your admiration of someone could only be dependent upon a particular characteristic or trait in the one being admired.
For instance: "I admire him for his eloquence; I admire her round face, her big blue eyes, or her blond hair".
Your admiration for this person could make tears drop down freely from your cheeks, and make the rest of your day dreamy and relaxed; yet still, you will not be said to have fallen headlong in love.
No matter the intensity of your admiration, it does not reach the degree of true love.
The Holy Qur'an says about two (married) lovers: "...
They are your garments And ye are their garments...
" (Qur'an, Chapter 2, Verse 187).
This is an eloquent description of true love.
The fabric used in making this garment is love; the threads used in sewing it is love; and finally, the embroidery on the garment is also love - true love for that matter.
Men and women are one another's garment.
They are for mutual support; mutual comfort; mutual protection; fitting into each other as a garment fits the body.
Let's bear in mind that the "garments" above are custom-made.
They are supposed to be made as the buyer specifies.
You would not purchase a garment you don't like.
So to speak, you would not become a garment for someone you don't love.
This is a clear indictment of some Muslims who force their young girls to marry men they would otherwise not marry.
There should never be a marriage that is devoid of mutual love.
Much to this writer's indignation, this practice is still very common in some Muslim communities in Africa, the Middle East, South Asia and Southeast Asia.
Therefore, from the above clarification, being infatuated with someone cannot be equated to being in love.
To this writer, you are only an admirer and would not necessarily qualify as a true lover.
The marked difference between a fake lover and a true lover is the longevity and intensity of his or her relationship with the opposite sex.
Relationships between "lovers" could be intense but short - indeed as short as a one night stand.
It could also last longer, but would still lack the closeness and/or intensity associated with true lovers.
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