In spite of your partner cheating on you, you still love him/her. You are at a crossroads - do you carry on with the relationship and work through the problem, or do you walk away and start a new life of your own? This is a very difficult position to be in. Your emotions are in a total turmoil, you have been betrayed, and yet your feelings for your partner are as strong as ever.

This is something that you need to think long and hard about - you should definitely not let your heart rule your head here - there are so many things to consider. Your trust in your partner has been totally shattered, and just the fact that it could take years to build up that trust again is daunting enough.

Yes, the road ahead is going to be very long and hard, and is something that your love alone just cannot begin to solve. For instance, you were very comfortable with your partner all these years - this has changed overnight, and might never happen again.

I say this because you don't trust your partner anymore because of the cheating, so there is no way that you will feel as comfortable with each other as you did before. You are always going to be suspicious of your partner. If he/she says that he/she has to work late some nights, you are going to be eaten up with worry - is he/she really at work, or with the other person?

Every time your partner answers the phone, you are going to be wondering if it is the other person calling. This is going to create a lot of tension between you and your partner eventually - and the atmosphere in your home will become unbearable.

Then of course, very importantly, the intimate side of your relationship will have suffered untold damage. Because your partner cheated on you, you are always going to feel that you are not good enough for your partner - after all, why did he/she feel the need to be with someone else if you were indeed good enough?

Having said all of this, and taking into consideration that cheating is one of the worst things you can do to your partner