Do You Want to Win Your Ex Back? If Yes, Don"t Be Friends With Them?
Have you tried every piece of advice known to man only to come up empty-handed? Is the growing need to win your ex back, making so afraid and full of despair that you are considering just being friends with your ex? If you are only interested in friendship and you have no desire to ever win your ex back, you should be friends.
But, if you really want another chance at love, you need to give your ex space before it's too late.
Your ex will never realize how much they miss you if you are always around.
If you settle for being just friends, you will always be available; that's the nature of the game.
If every time your ex starts to miss you, you are just one phone call away, they will never know what it's like to have to get along without you.
Don't allow yourself to become your ex's emotional crutch.
If you want to win your ex back, you must create distance that they can feel, and they have to come face to face with the reality of what they lost by breaking up with you.
They will never have to do that if you're friends.
You need to know why your ex was with you to begin with.
You may have been so deep in love, that you didn't realize you were being taken advantage of, financially or emotionally or sexually.
Maybe your ex kept you around until something better turned up.
By creating distance between the two of you, by living your own life, by making a concerted effort to move on and trying to date other people for the time being, you will be able to face reality and determine whether you were truly and wholly loved and accepted or only certain aspects of you.
Be okay by yourself.
Remember how much fun you could have by yourself as a kid? You could spend hours just doing nothing and it was the best time ever! Take the small steps to regaining that joie de vivre, that zest for living.
As long as you have the best memories of your ex, as long as you are healthy and safe and able to provide for yourself you have everything you could ever need.
If your ex really wants to be with you, the space and time you give will make them fully aware of this and if they don't, you will not have wasted precious time, precious days of your life convincing someone else of how wonderful you already know you are.
And know that there is someone waiting for you to show up, to arrive just as you are who will think you are perfect and wonderful simply because you're 'you.
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But, if you really want another chance at love, you need to give your ex space before it's too late.
Your ex will never realize how much they miss you if you are always around.
If you settle for being just friends, you will always be available; that's the nature of the game.
If every time your ex starts to miss you, you are just one phone call away, they will never know what it's like to have to get along without you.
Don't allow yourself to become your ex's emotional crutch.
If you want to win your ex back, you must create distance that they can feel, and they have to come face to face with the reality of what they lost by breaking up with you.
They will never have to do that if you're friends.
You need to know why your ex was with you to begin with.
You may have been so deep in love, that you didn't realize you were being taken advantage of, financially or emotionally or sexually.
Maybe your ex kept you around until something better turned up.
By creating distance between the two of you, by living your own life, by making a concerted effort to move on and trying to date other people for the time being, you will be able to face reality and determine whether you were truly and wholly loved and accepted or only certain aspects of you.
Be okay by yourself.
Remember how much fun you could have by yourself as a kid? You could spend hours just doing nothing and it was the best time ever! Take the small steps to regaining that joie de vivre, that zest for living.
As long as you have the best memories of your ex, as long as you are healthy and safe and able to provide for yourself you have everything you could ever need.
If your ex really wants to be with you, the space and time you give will make them fully aware of this and if they don't, you will not have wasted precious time, precious days of your life convincing someone else of how wonderful you already know you are.
And know that there is someone waiting for you to show up, to arrive just as you are who will think you are perfect and wonderful simply because you're 'you.
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