How to Reach a Temporary Divorce Agreement Quickly Through Online Mediation
Getting a divorce may take several months.
That explains why in the meantime many spouses are eager to work out a temporary divorce agreement on a variety of urgent issues like -- who will move out of the house; how the bills will be paid; or how much time will the kids spend with their mom and dad.
So the question is -- what's the easiest way to reach such temporary agreement? Until now, when spouses were unable to stay calm and make those decisions by themselves, they sat down with a neutral divorce mediator.
Thanks to today's technology, however, they now have a better option.
They can participate in divorce mediation online, wherever they are and whenever they want - by video conference, by phone, or by email.
As a result, the whole mediation process is faster and more convenient.
Not only can husband and wife participate in mediation even when they are out-of-state.
They also avoid the stress of sitting together in the mediator's office.
The decision about which means of communication to use - video conference, phone or email - is made by the mediator, and depends mainly on the stage of the mediation process.
At the very beginning, for example, the mediator usually prefers to set up a video conference, for three reasons.
First, it allows the mediator to establish a personal rapport with the spouses.
Second, it gives husband and wife the opportunity to ask any questions about the online mediation process, cost and outcome.
And third, it allows the mediator to detect any discrepancy between the spouses' body language and their words, especially when they answer two key questions -- Do they both accept the fact that their marriage is over? And are they both ready to start discussing the terms of their divorce? Once husband and wife agree on which issues need to be resolved with a temporary agreement, the mediator emails them a list of questions to think about, and invites them to put forward a proposal for the other spouse to consider.
After both spouses email back their proposals, the mediator sets up another video or phone conference.
Husband and wife can then: 1) Present their offer to each other.
2) Explain why they think their offer is fair.
3) Decide what to do next.
For example, are they willing to accept the other spouse's proposal? Or do they need a few more days to think it over, and come up with a different proposal? This innovative way of reaching a temporary divorce agreement through online mediation seems to work particularly well with young couples.
Why? Because many of them already use email, phone and video conference at work.
That explains why in the meantime many spouses are eager to work out a temporary divorce agreement on a variety of urgent issues like -- who will move out of the house; how the bills will be paid; or how much time will the kids spend with their mom and dad.
So the question is -- what's the easiest way to reach such temporary agreement? Until now, when spouses were unable to stay calm and make those decisions by themselves, they sat down with a neutral divorce mediator.
Thanks to today's technology, however, they now have a better option.
They can participate in divorce mediation online, wherever they are and whenever they want - by video conference, by phone, or by email.
As a result, the whole mediation process is faster and more convenient.
Not only can husband and wife participate in mediation even when they are out-of-state.
They also avoid the stress of sitting together in the mediator's office.
The decision about which means of communication to use - video conference, phone or email - is made by the mediator, and depends mainly on the stage of the mediation process.
At the very beginning, for example, the mediator usually prefers to set up a video conference, for three reasons.
First, it allows the mediator to establish a personal rapport with the spouses.
Second, it gives husband and wife the opportunity to ask any questions about the online mediation process, cost and outcome.
And third, it allows the mediator to detect any discrepancy between the spouses' body language and their words, especially when they answer two key questions -- Do they both accept the fact that their marriage is over? And are they both ready to start discussing the terms of their divorce? Once husband and wife agree on which issues need to be resolved with a temporary agreement, the mediator emails them a list of questions to think about, and invites them to put forward a proposal for the other spouse to consider.
After both spouses email back their proposals, the mediator sets up another video or phone conference.
Husband and wife can then: 1) Present their offer to each other.
2) Explain why they think their offer is fair.
3) Decide what to do next.
For example, are they willing to accept the other spouse's proposal? Or do they need a few more days to think it over, and come up with a different proposal? This innovative way of reaching a temporary divorce agreement through online mediation seems to work particularly well with young couples.
Why? Because many of them already use email, phone and video conference at work.
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