How Bad Do You Want It?
When I get a new client, the first thing I have them do is write a description of their perfect, dream relationship in as much detail as possible.
The first thing that strikes me is how hard this actually is for most people.
Just like with many things in our lives, we often know what we don't want, in many cases because we are living it.
However, we rarely take the time to identify what we do want.
After a great deal of thought I usually get a beautifully written, eloquent description of the dream relationship.
They usually use words like passion, trust, love, excitement, connection...
The kinds of things we all want.
After assuring them that they can have that dream relationship, for sure, no doubt, I ask the question that usually sucks all the air out of the room.
"Do you want that relationship more than you want anything, especially more than you want the man you're with.
" At this point I lose about half of all the women who call me for help and that's OK.
Those women are looking for a fix, not only for their broken relationship, but also a fix for their man.
They want to be happy, and they want it to be with him - period.
I can't help those women.
Truth of the matter is, no one can.
When we are so determined we know what's best for us, God, or the Divine, or the Universe, whatever you prefer to call it, can't step in and do anything for us.
I've learned the Divine plan is always better than mine! If we are willing to hold tightly to our vision, not anyone person, the results can be nothing short of miraculous.
Now, sometimes those miracles come in the form of a relationship reborn when that old partner becomes the perfect mate.
Sometimes when you hold your vision he will just "miraculously" step up to the plate.
I've seen that happen over and over.
Sometimes however, there are much better things in store for you and it comes in the package of an amazing new partner.
This was the case for me.
It sort of feels like a kick in face in the beginning, but let me tell you.
I've seen the promised land and it was well worth the kick in the face!!! So, I challenge you.
Write the description of your dream relationship and when you've perfected it, ask yourself the question.
Do you want that life more than anything, even more then you want "you know who"?
The first thing that strikes me is how hard this actually is for most people.
Just like with many things in our lives, we often know what we don't want, in many cases because we are living it.
However, we rarely take the time to identify what we do want.
After a great deal of thought I usually get a beautifully written, eloquent description of the dream relationship.
They usually use words like passion, trust, love, excitement, connection...
The kinds of things we all want.
After assuring them that they can have that dream relationship, for sure, no doubt, I ask the question that usually sucks all the air out of the room.
"Do you want that relationship more than you want anything, especially more than you want the man you're with.
" At this point I lose about half of all the women who call me for help and that's OK.
Those women are looking for a fix, not only for their broken relationship, but also a fix for their man.
They want to be happy, and they want it to be with him - period.
I can't help those women.
Truth of the matter is, no one can.
When we are so determined we know what's best for us, God, or the Divine, or the Universe, whatever you prefer to call it, can't step in and do anything for us.
I've learned the Divine plan is always better than mine! If we are willing to hold tightly to our vision, not anyone person, the results can be nothing short of miraculous.
Now, sometimes those miracles come in the form of a relationship reborn when that old partner becomes the perfect mate.
Sometimes when you hold your vision he will just "miraculously" step up to the plate.
I've seen that happen over and over.
Sometimes however, there are much better things in store for you and it comes in the package of an amazing new partner.
This was the case for me.
It sort of feels like a kick in face in the beginning, but let me tell you.
I've seen the promised land and it was well worth the kick in the face!!! So, I challenge you.
Write the description of your dream relationship and when you've perfected it, ask yourself the question.
Do you want that life more than anything, even more then you want "you know who"?
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