The very fact that you are looking at this article means that you are really serious about the reunion and you want to mend your roughed up ties with your boyfriend.
But again as you probably have experienced, if you are too eager to reunite with your ex-boyfriend, it can have a counter intuitive effect.
You boyfriend will move further away from you.
This is because, you are still reminding him of the same stress and strain that caused the break up in the first place.
You cannot win him back by sheer pressure, you have to work differently.
You probably are trying in every possible way to let your ex know that you are missing him.
Flooding him with phone calls and messages on his phones.
Probably even spamming his mailbox with your letters.
Or you opted for the other common alternative of blaming him and making him feel apologetic for what he has done to you.
If you are indulging in either of these approaches, then you need to halt.
This will worsen the situation, you have to improve it, so cease using such tactics.
Rather look at constructive ways to mend the relationship, if you are really serious about getting back with your boyfriend.
You need to radically change you modus operandi.
First try to step back and forget about the break up and the boy friend.
Look at ways to generate positive vibes around you, develop a nice cheerful attitude.
For once stop thinking about your ex and starting thinking about yourself.
It is easier said than done, but it must be done.
So you might as well start working on it sooner than later.
Exercise self-control and try to follow this step diligently.
By giving your ex-boyfriend some time away from you, you are giving him the space he needs to think about the break up and more importantly about you after the break up.
By continuously badgering him with messages and calls, you in fact have kept him abreast with you situation, now leaving him alone is going to intrigue him and make him wonder what you may be up to.
This will lead him to start missing you.
He'll start thinking about you by himself rather than you having to remind him.
This could really work into your hands when you try to mend things later.
You can never mend a relationship by straining it further.
On the contrary you have to improve it and rectify past errors to re-develop.
So the next step is to look at the usual habits and idiosyncrasies that may have upset him in the past and try to change them.
If you get your traits and problems solved you can then remind your ex boyfriend of all the good things as to why he befriended you last time.
Remember to stand you ground and not try to flooding him with "you".
Create a web of curiosity around you and let him think of you and miss you.
Let him realize all the good things about you that made him become your boyfriend.
Be tough, but not too tough.
Let him take the initiative and approach you and you'll always be successful in mending the broken ties.