Most marriages are in trouble before couples recognize that there are problems in their relationship. To save your marriage is never easy and truly most couples would never have to go down this road if they only would work on the relationship on an ongoing basis.

We all know that men and women are different in nature with different needs. The design of the two makes a marriage really exciting. In this article I will discuss what the man in the relationship can contribute to avoid getting into the situation of having to save the marriage.

All this psychological advice and counseling which you read doesn't really help if you don't understand the basic needs and differences of a woman and a man.

All though women are very much encouraged to learn from this information, for now, I really want to hone in on how men can keep the marriage relationship save and very much alive in the present as well as in the future. I promise that I will cover the part of what a woman can do to keep things interesting in a future article.

Guys - what ever happened to that adoration and drive you had when you were dating your girlfriend, now your wife? Think about that you naturally the hunter and you do that with passion. Remember the times when you could not leave her alone and hardly wait until you see her again. You were on fire just thinking about her! You most likely made a point to be perfectly groomed, you dressed to look cool, you showered at least twice a day and you called her several times a day and did everything to make her feel good about you.

Okay, we need to understand that we all change somewhat over time and a marriage has its challenges but why do we leave all the ingredients behind that made life so much different because the girlfriend in your life, now your wife had your heart racing.

A neglected relationship can not grow especially when you do very little or nothing to make her realize that she is being sincerely loved by you and is still the only one.

A woman is like a flower, as long as she is nurtured with sincere love and feels secure in the environment she is in she flourishes. Once she wilting you will have a hard time to get her back. She still likes to hear the words "I love you" and to feel special when you bring home some treat like a chocolate and a bunch of flowers.

Dance with her - play with her and hold her hands as you did when she was your girlfriend. A sense of humor doesn't hurt either! And what about that romantic dinner, weekend or vacation? A sensual all over massage and body rub will add to the excitement of the newly discovered woman in your life.

She wants to feel like a queen and guy's sex is not to be treated like a meal or a beer that you enjoy because a woman is much more emotionally involved in the relationship than you are. Put your heart into the relationship and get emotionally involved and your sex life will be better than ever.

So if you remember the above things that I mentioned you may just land up as the king and you are most likely in a great relationship and an amazing marriage. A marriage is not like a football game that you enjoy or a project you have to do, it is an intimate relationship between two people and requires ongoing attention and some work.

Remember empty words don't mean anything; it's your action that counts. Be observant and offer her help when she doesn't ask for it. Look at all the great attributes that she has and commend her for the good meal she has prepared for you. Sincere complements go a long way. Tell her that she looks great - remember your girlfriend has never left; she actually became your precious wife.

For both partners, communication is key whether you need to solve a problem or simply have a great discussion. Don't forget to listen to her! Being open, honest and somewhat vulnerable will put you in a position where you can receive and she will love it.

Be proactive and start to implement the above suggestions. Make a real plan and don't procrastinate because you may never be given the opportunity again to make a difference.