Detach yourself to experience infinite freedom
Happiness is relative, what one person needs to be happy in life is quite different than what another person might need. Happiness is just as simple a concept as it is complicated; there are hundreds of different aspects and thousands of complexities attached to happiness. Everyone wants to be happy and anyone you come across would be constantly trying to make things better, trying to work out a relationship, trying to get one more new car, one more house, and one more cell phone; all in hopes of being happy.
In most cases, people are not happy just because they don't let themselves be happy. They get attached to trivial things, ideas, egos, possessions and relationships that keep them bound to unhappy feelings and keep them crushed under the weight of this massive burden that they continue to carry on their backs.
Attachments are very easily formed, and they are that much difficult to get out of. Once you get attached to someone or something your happiness in part would depend on the happiness of the other person. There are promises to keep, people to keep happy and things to purchase, it's a constant vicious cycle that would go on and on and you would never be able to get out of it.
People form attachments not only with other people, thoughts and egos; but also with their materialistic possessions. If you rummage through your house and look at the things that you have kept stored you would be surprised at what you find. You might have kept a 6 year old t-shirt that no longer fits you just because your ex had gifted it to you and you want to keep it for memory's sake. You would find endless items in your house that you no longer need but keep them just because they are emotionally important for you.
The only way to be really happy is to free your self from the shackles of the attachments. When you realize how many attachments you form on a daily basis you would understand how your happiness is dependent on other people, on relationships and on material possessions. The only thing that your happiness should depend on is yourself, and not on anything or anyone else.
Being detached from people doesn't mean you stop loving or stop forming relationships. Love, but do not get attached. Give your love whole heartedly to the people you love but do not expect them to love you back, when you expect you get attached. When you have no expectations at all, you wouldn't depend on external sources for happiness. Do not get attached to yourself either, your ideas or your ego. If you love yourself excessively and view things in relation to "ME" and "MINE" you would get easily attached.
Nothing is "yours", whatever you get is just a gift and what you don't get wasn't meant for you anyways. When you understand this simple fact you would realize that what you own is just a gift for you, and you wouldn't get attached to it.
Learning how to stay detached is not an easy thing to do, it takes a lot of perseverance and some guidance, but once you learn how to do it you would experience infinite freedom.
In most cases, people are not happy just because they don't let themselves be happy. They get attached to trivial things, ideas, egos, possessions and relationships that keep them bound to unhappy feelings and keep them crushed under the weight of this massive burden that they continue to carry on their backs.
Attachments are very easily formed, and they are that much difficult to get out of. Once you get attached to someone or something your happiness in part would depend on the happiness of the other person. There are promises to keep, people to keep happy and things to purchase, it's a constant vicious cycle that would go on and on and you would never be able to get out of it.
People form attachments not only with other people, thoughts and egos; but also with their materialistic possessions. If you rummage through your house and look at the things that you have kept stored you would be surprised at what you find. You might have kept a 6 year old t-shirt that no longer fits you just because your ex had gifted it to you and you want to keep it for memory's sake. You would find endless items in your house that you no longer need but keep them just because they are emotionally important for you.
The only way to be really happy is to free your self from the shackles of the attachments. When you realize how many attachments you form on a daily basis you would understand how your happiness is dependent on other people, on relationships and on material possessions. The only thing that your happiness should depend on is yourself, and not on anything or anyone else.
Being detached from people doesn't mean you stop loving or stop forming relationships. Love, but do not get attached. Give your love whole heartedly to the people you love but do not expect them to love you back, when you expect you get attached. When you have no expectations at all, you wouldn't depend on external sources for happiness. Do not get attached to yourself either, your ideas or your ego. If you love yourself excessively and view things in relation to "ME" and "MINE" you would get easily attached.
Nothing is "yours", whatever you get is just a gift and what you don't get wasn't meant for you anyways. When you understand this simple fact you would realize that what you own is just a gift for you, and you wouldn't get attached to it.
Learning how to stay detached is not an easy thing to do, it takes a lot of perseverance and some guidance, but once you learn how to do it you would experience infinite freedom.
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