How to Bring the Zest Back to a Stagnant Relationship
Once you have been in a relationship for a long time you begin to feel that it is missing that special zest.
Settling down to a routine of looking after children, in-laws, extended family, office stress and other demands of a home that need to be attended to to make sure a smooth running of a well settled home takes a priority leaving no time for the couples to connect with each other.
No matter how much you want to connect with your partner, how much you want to spend time with them, there will always be one thing or the other that will need your attention at home so how to bring that zest back into a relationship that has started feeling stagnant.
Here are ten tips for you to follow to keep that relationship flowing with love and laughter.
1.
Plan a weekend together Daily routine does takes it toll on the relationship and with both the partners working managing home, children and office sometimes can be dangerous for your marriage.
Hence the best way is to plan a weekend with your partner.
If your extended family is living with you then no problems otherwise pack the children to their grandparents place for the weekend and you both can enjoy the peace and quiet at your pace.
If you don't want to send the children away then you and your partner choose a nearby destination where you both can relax away from the tensions of home.
2.
Appreciate and praise each other You might think that your husband does not do much at home or your wife does not take proper care of you and is always busy with children.
However, it is the small things that matters in a relationship.
Hence appreciate your husband's efforts when he takes the children to the park so that you can have few minutes to yourself.
Appreciate and praise each others with words like I love you or you are the best husband/wife in the world.
Once you start appreciating each other you will see the difference in your relationship.
3.
Don't be overly critical Alright! So you are not happy with your spouse's habits and are becoming critical about everything he or she does.
However, next time you judge your spouse critically, stop there and put yourself in their place and then think are you right in being judging them critically.
Constructive criticism is good for a relationship but when it goes overboard it creates nothing but bitterness in a relationship which is not a healthy sign if you want to keep the relationship alive with love and happiness.
4.
Maintain healthy lifestyle It has been observed that once you are settled in a married life you tend to ignore your physical appearance, which ideally is not correct.
One should always support a healthy lifestyle where exercise and taking proper diet is a routine and not a chore to be done.
5.
Keep yourself well groomed Well groomed person is a delight to sour eyes and a tired mind and body.
So keep yourself well groomed.
Well groomed means that you take care of the basic hygiene along with the regular visits to your beautician, be well dressed when your spouse is expected back from their work.
6.
Let intimacy soar You don't have to indulge in lovemaking every time to keep the intimacy.
Just a casual touch or a kiss will do wonders for your relationship.
Try butterfly kisses, or a casual touch while you cross each other at home or keep your eyes on them when they enter the room you are sitting in and see how the intimacy meter soars.
7.
Share laughter together How long has it been since you two sat together and shared a joke or a light hearted moment where you both laughed your heart out? Do it again now for your relationship sake if not for anything else.
8.
Surprise each other Keeping the surprise element in a relationship is important as it keeps the other person guessing what you could be doing the next moment.
So surprise each other with gifts, hugs, massages anything and everything you can think of under the sun.
9.
Communication galore Keeping the channels of communication forever will ensure less trouble and more fun in your relationship.
So talk to each other but don't nag.
10.
Share your secret fantasies Ah! Fantasies, everyone has them and you also must be having so share them with your partner.
Be clear about what you want from your partner.
So go ahead and bring back the zest in your stagnant relationship with these points.
Of course you can add your points as well.
Settling down to a routine of looking after children, in-laws, extended family, office stress and other demands of a home that need to be attended to to make sure a smooth running of a well settled home takes a priority leaving no time for the couples to connect with each other.
No matter how much you want to connect with your partner, how much you want to spend time with them, there will always be one thing or the other that will need your attention at home so how to bring that zest back into a relationship that has started feeling stagnant.
Here are ten tips for you to follow to keep that relationship flowing with love and laughter.
1.
Plan a weekend together Daily routine does takes it toll on the relationship and with both the partners working managing home, children and office sometimes can be dangerous for your marriage.
Hence the best way is to plan a weekend with your partner.
If your extended family is living with you then no problems otherwise pack the children to their grandparents place for the weekend and you both can enjoy the peace and quiet at your pace.
If you don't want to send the children away then you and your partner choose a nearby destination where you both can relax away from the tensions of home.
2.
Appreciate and praise each other You might think that your husband does not do much at home or your wife does not take proper care of you and is always busy with children.
However, it is the small things that matters in a relationship.
Hence appreciate your husband's efforts when he takes the children to the park so that you can have few minutes to yourself.
Appreciate and praise each others with words like I love you or you are the best husband/wife in the world.
Once you start appreciating each other you will see the difference in your relationship.
3.
Don't be overly critical Alright! So you are not happy with your spouse's habits and are becoming critical about everything he or she does.
However, next time you judge your spouse critically, stop there and put yourself in their place and then think are you right in being judging them critically.
Constructive criticism is good for a relationship but when it goes overboard it creates nothing but bitterness in a relationship which is not a healthy sign if you want to keep the relationship alive with love and happiness.
4.
Maintain healthy lifestyle It has been observed that once you are settled in a married life you tend to ignore your physical appearance, which ideally is not correct.
One should always support a healthy lifestyle where exercise and taking proper diet is a routine and not a chore to be done.
5.
Keep yourself well groomed Well groomed person is a delight to sour eyes and a tired mind and body.
So keep yourself well groomed.
Well groomed means that you take care of the basic hygiene along with the regular visits to your beautician, be well dressed when your spouse is expected back from their work.
6.
Let intimacy soar You don't have to indulge in lovemaking every time to keep the intimacy.
Just a casual touch or a kiss will do wonders for your relationship.
Try butterfly kisses, or a casual touch while you cross each other at home or keep your eyes on them when they enter the room you are sitting in and see how the intimacy meter soars.
7.
Share laughter together How long has it been since you two sat together and shared a joke or a light hearted moment where you both laughed your heart out? Do it again now for your relationship sake if not for anything else.
8.
Surprise each other Keeping the surprise element in a relationship is important as it keeps the other person guessing what you could be doing the next moment.
So surprise each other with gifts, hugs, massages anything and everything you can think of under the sun.
9.
Communication galore Keeping the channels of communication forever will ensure less trouble and more fun in your relationship.
So talk to each other but don't nag.
10.
Share your secret fantasies Ah! Fantasies, everyone has them and you also must be having so share them with your partner.
Be clear about what you want from your partner.
So go ahead and bring back the zest in your stagnant relationship with these points.
Of course you can add your points as well.
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