It's easy to fall into a state of depression and despair after breaking up with someone you love. You actually have more power to change things than you may realize, but the problem is that you've never been taught what to do. Fixing a broken relationship is very possible, but you're going to need a plan. Without a plan, you'll end up making mistakes that drive your ex away.

If you're afraid that you may lose the person you love forever, this fear of loss can put you into a state of panic. This "panic mode" can cause you to try too hard and you'll end up doing things that are desperate. If your ex sees you acting out of desperation and pushing frantically to get back together, they will naturally be turned off and resist your efforts. How do you react when someone is trying to "get" you to do something? You probably resist them and are irritated right?

Again, the fear of loss is driving you to this behavior, but you must get your emotions under control so you can approach getting back together with a clear head. The more you call them, send letters or gifts, apologize, beg, cry and try to talk them into taking you back, the more you're pushing them away and the worse it's making you feel.

Take a break and give yourself a chance to regain your strength and independence. Clear your head and get out of panic mode. Taking time off from contacting your ex will also give them a chance to miss you. How can they miss you if you're always pestering them and wanting to "have a talk?"

Being needy and desperate is probably not a normal part of your personality and your ex knows that. So when you act this way it seems very strange and out of character. If you stop bothering your ex for a while and show them that you're doing fine without them, there is a strong chance they will be attracted to you again. That's just how human nature works. It's possible to get back together with your ex, but you'll have to work in harmony with their human nature so they have a chance to miss you.