Are you dating a commitment phobe? Most women who are just don’t want to admit it. It’s heartbreaking once you come to the realization that the man you’re deeply involved with has no intention of taking your relationship to the next level. He seems content with just dating and whenever you mention anything more, he pulls back. It may seem as though you’ve only got two choices in a situation like this. You can either accept him as he is and give up on your dream of having a committed relationship with him or you can leave and find someone who values you more. There’s actually another choice that you may find very interesting. If your man seems unwilling or unable to give you a commitment, you actually have the power to get him to change his mind and crave a more serious relationship with you.

Dating men afraid of commitment comes with its own unique set of challenges. The degree to which a man is opposed to a serious relationship really will define how close you can get to him. If he seems just a bit wary, he may make a suggestion that you two date exclusively but he’ll squirm if you propose the idea of moving in together. Other men are so opposed to commitment that they won’t even give up dating other women. In this case you’ll be left feeling very confused, rejected and unsure of whether or not the relationship does indeed have a future. Regardless of how commitment phobic he is there are things you should be doing right now to change the dynamic of the relationship. Chances are that he feels secure in your love for him so he sees no reason to change anything at all. That’s why you need to make some changes yourself.

The first thing you absolutely must do if you’re involved with a man who isn’t serious about commitment is stop talking about it. Men like this often take perverse pleasure in the fact that they’re withholding something important from you. The more you push for a commitment, the more they’ll resist it. That’s what it’s so essential for you to not push. Simply drop the subject altogether.

Another step that works when you want to make a man commit is to become less accessible to him. If he feels that he already has you, he’ll see no reason to work harder to get you. If you’ve made it abundantly clear that you love him and you’re not going anywhere, he’ll never commit. However, if you pull back a bit and create some emotional distance between the two of you, he’ll suddenly panic a little. The instant a man thinks he’s losing a woman, he’ll want her back. Be subtle about this though. Making a huge announcement about how you’re not always going to be around won’t work. You have to show him that you’re serious by not always being available for him.