You promised in your wedding vows to each other to love each other for better or worse. Now you're in the middle of a time that qualifies as "worse" and your marriage is on the rocks. A broken or soon-to-be broken marriage can be difficult to mend and men just like you who have experienced this know what you're going through. Being left alone can be devistating; you're left to all your thoughts of living life without the person you love most. Stay positive and don't lose heart. It's entirely possible to win back your wife; it's just going to take a lot of effort.

To win back her heart, you need to focus on the good things in your relationship that made her fall in love with you to begin with. Be the man she fell in love with. Emphasize the qualities you used to win her love before you got married. This may take time, effort, patience, and self-improvement, but persevere. You've got to make her a top priority, but use caution; hounding her every minute of the day will be counter-productive.

Instead, give her subtle reminders of much you love her. Tell her how beautiful she looks, send her roses with a note, reminisce about the times you had together before you were married. This may seem cheesy to you but it will remind her of the love you have for her. It's time to swallow your pride, be corageous, and take affirmative action. It's imperative that you rebuild the love and trust you once had with her.

Recognize your own faults and mistakes and change them. She isn't going to take you back as you are; you need to be the person she fell in love with. Communicate with her about the problems you've had and show her that you're willing to make a change. Do not simply beg for forgiveness; women do not want to see their husbands begging for help. Take the initiative and really demonstrate to her that you're intentions to reconcile are sincere. Impress her with your patience and perseverence. If she doesn't accept your offers, do not make it an issue. She may just need more time to think about things and it's possible she'll be more receptive as time goes on.

Try to understand what caused the rift between you and your wife. Communicate with her and understand her perspective, feelings, and motives. Determine ways in the future to avoid or improve circumstances that led to your wife's departure.

You'll need a lot of determination and a new found sense of commitment to win your wife back but stay positive and devote your time to improving yourself and your relationship with her and it can be done. Be the husband that she fell in love with when you were younger. Be her best friend and the best husband you can be when you have her back and never let her go again.