How Do You Get Your Ex Back When All Seems Hopeless?
Have you just been dumped? Heart broken? Confused and unsure what went wrong and how you're going to get your ex back? I know what you're going through...
my last partner broke off the relationship without as much as a warning...
I was stunned and didn't see it coming at all.
I cried and begged to be taken back for weeks.
I just didn't understand what had changed.
Everyone around me didn't understand either, but mostly they were just saying to move on and how men were bastards.
I know it's tough right now I want you to know that there are definitely things you can do to bring your ex back.
I found that out the hard way, but you certainly don't need to go through months of torture before your ex comes back to you.
The first thing you have to understand is that desperation will only repel your ex away from you.
If you're feeling desperate then you're acting desperate.
Letting your ex know you're hurting and want them back once is normal and we all do it, certainly even calling a few times to check up on them is normal too.
In fact begging and crying IS normal, but is it the best thing to do if you want your ex back? Some people will say they do it to show they love the other person, and I don't disagree with that.
The problem comes when you've tried all of the crying, begging and persuading you could think of and either your ex has started to move onto someone else or they are slowly drifting away from you instead! There's a few ways that they might do this.
They'll start contacting you less, they'll start sharing less of themselves with you.
Sooner or later you hear from them less and less and you find yourself feeling more and more miserable because you spend half of your time missing and wanting to be with them.
Now the reason they're doing this is because, a part of them have already started to 'move' on long before the actual break up has occurred.
They've prepared in their mind your hurt and your reactions.
Most likely they won't want to hurt you! But because they feel they must leave the relationship, they will do anything to withdraw from you emotionally.
The only way to counter their distant interactions is NOT to further jump all over them, but to do the OPPOSITE.
Now I know this is very counter-intuitive and hence why it took me so long to figure this out.
But the moment you stop being desperate or needy, your ex will start to look at you differently.
Even if they don't show it at first, they will slowly notice and be taken aback by your almost 'indifference' towards them.
my last partner broke off the relationship without as much as a warning...
I was stunned and didn't see it coming at all.
I cried and begged to be taken back for weeks.
I just didn't understand what had changed.
Everyone around me didn't understand either, but mostly they were just saying to move on and how men were bastards.
I know it's tough right now I want you to know that there are definitely things you can do to bring your ex back.
I found that out the hard way, but you certainly don't need to go through months of torture before your ex comes back to you.
The first thing you have to understand is that desperation will only repel your ex away from you.
If you're feeling desperate then you're acting desperate.
Letting your ex know you're hurting and want them back once is normal and we all do it, certainly even calling a few times to check up on them is normal too.
In fact begging and crying IS normal, but is it the best thing to do if you want your ex back? Some people will say they do it to show they love the other person, and I don't disagree with that.
The problem comes when you've tried all of the crying, begging and persuading you could think of and either your ex has started to move onto someone else or they are slowly drifting away from you instead! There's a few ways that they might do this.
They'll start contacting you less, they'll start sharing less of themselves with you.
Sooner or later you hear from them less and less and you find yourself feeling more and more miserable because you spend half of your time missing and wanting to be with them.
Now the reason they're doing this is because, a part of them have already started to 'move' on long before the actual break up has occurred.
They've prepared in their mind your hurt and your reactions.
Most likely they won't want to hurt you! But because they feel they must leave the relationship, they will do anything to withdraw from you emotionally.
The only way to counter their distant interactions is NOT to further jump all over them, but to do the OPPOSITE.
Now I know this is very counter-intuitive and hence why it took me so long to figure this out.
But the moment you stop being desperate or needy, your ex will start to look at you differently.
Even if they don't show it at first, they will slowly notice and be taken aback by your almost 'indifference' towards them.
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