Things Don"t Settle on Their Own, They Get Settled
The thing people want most is to find meaning and purpose in their lives.
Our relationships are one of the most important ways of giving some meaning to our existence.
Divorce blows that meaning apart leaving us in a void.
The void is that place between what's ending and what may emerge in the future.
What most people don't get is that the void is a place of great potential but seems fearful because it is unfamiliar and uncomfortable.
You can start to rework yourself in ways that will affect not only what you're experiencing but help you define what you want in the future.
Trying to survive and recover from a divorce in not for the faint of heart and shouldn't be done alone.
It's just too hard and far too confusing.
So the next question is "what is help?" To answer that question we need to know what the problems are.
One set of "problems" is all the legal process involved in disentangling who get's what and obligations for the future.
This is the realm of attorneys.
Now that the legal issues are in the hands of your lawyer what is left to deal with? Honestly most people stumble through post separation trying to understand what happened and sort out their new reality while feeling emotionally devastated.
Here's where most of us can use help.
Some folks go to a therapist, some to a minister or a friend.
What has emerged over the last 10 years is another alternative.
That alternative is to work with an experienced life coach who specializes in crisis intervention situations such as divorce.
Most people don't know what a life coach does.
Coach's help people do the things they need to do even when they don't want to do them.
A coach is a confidant, advisor, sounding board and guide who knows the territory you're going through and is prepared to help you deal with the powerful emotion that are assaulting you.
A coach will give you "life enhancement" assignments that are focused on dealing with the fallout from the divorce and later give you life building tools/skills to design and assemble a new life.
Consider the alternative of working with a seasoned life coach trained to work with people in crisis in an effective way.
One of the best measurements is whether you feel heard and understood.
Check it out.
Most coach's will give you a free consult.
Whatever you choose, get someone to help you through this most difficult time.
Our relationships are one of the most important ways of giving some meaning to our existence.
Divorce blows that meaning apart leaving us in a void.
The void is that place between what's ending and what may emerge in the future.
What most people don't get is that the void is a place of great potential but seems fearful because it is unfamiliar and uncomfortable.
You can start to rework yourself in ways that will affect not only what you're experiencing but help you define what you want in the future.
Trying to survive and recover from a divorce in not for the faint of heart and shouldn't be done alone.
It's just too hard and far too confusing.
So the next question is "what is help?" To answer that question we need to know what the problems are.
One set of "problems" is all the legal process involved in disentangling who get's what and obligations for the future.
This is the realm of attorneys.
Now that the legal issues are in the hands of your lawyer what is left to deal with? Honestly most people stumble through post separation trying to understand what happened and sort out their new reality while feeling emotionally devastated.
Here's where most of us can use help.
Some folks go to a therapist, some to a minister or a friend.
What has emerged over the last 10 years is another alternative.
That alternative is to work with an experienced life coach who specializes in crisis intervention situations such as divorce.
Most people don't know what a life coach does.
Coach's help people do the things they need to do even when they don't want to do them.
A coach is a confidant, advisor, sounding board and guide who knows the territory you're going through and is prepared to help you deal with the powerful emotion that are assaulting you.
A coach will give you "life enhancement" assignments that are focused on dealing with the fallout from the divorce and later give you life building tools/skills to design and assemble a new life.
Consider the alternative of working with a seasoned life coach trained to work with people in crisis in an effective way.
One of the best measurements is whether you feel heard and understood.
Check it out.
Most coach's will give you a free consult.
Whatever you choose, get someone to help you through this most difficult time.
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