Are You A Jealous Person?
Sometimes it's easy to get so caught up in a relationship that you don't stop and think how your actions look to someone other than your partner. Yet often the way to get an accurate assessment as to the kind of partner you are, is by seeing what others think of you.
Whether or not you're a jealous person is one of these issues because you may have no idea that your behavior comes across as that of a jealous partner, rather than a caring one. Your friends, and your partner's friends, however will have a better view on that!
If you don't think that you're jealous, consider how you act when your partner is out with other people. Do you trust them completely? Are you secure enough to know that even if there's some mild flirtation going on, it means nothing to your partner and that they are just being themselves? In a social situation are you confident enough in your relationship that both you and your partner can spend the evening separately mingling with other people? If so, you are probably quite relaxed and secure in your relationship and jealousy isn't an issue.
There are many healthy couples where both partners are confident enough in the state of their relationship that they know their partner has no intention of taking a flirtation any further that what it is, a fun interaction that means nothing.
On the other hand, if you are constantly wondering what your partner is doing when they aren't with you, you are distrustful of anyone who flirts with your partner, and are suspicious if you find out that they aren't where they're supposed to be, then that should send the jealousy alarm bell ringing in your head.
This would be a good time to talk about this with a friend that you trust to see if what you feel is normal, or whether it's a jealous streak that could destroy your relationship. Think about how you are with your partner in a social setting. Do you hang on their arm so that no-one else gets close to them? If you happen to be separated, do you spend the time watching what they're doing rather than enjoying yourself? Do you ring them for some trivial reason just so you can check that they are where they said they were going to be? All of these are signs that you are allowing your relationship to be clouded by jealousy.
If your relationship is jealousy free, then it stands a much greater chance of surviving. If you can identify either yourself, or with the help of friends, that you are jealous, then you can work on this so that you can identify why you feel this way and take steps to correct it.
Whether or not you're a jealous person is one of these issues because you may have no idea that your behavior comes across as that of a jealous partner, rather than a caring one. Your friends, and your partner's friends, however will have a better view on that!
If you don't think that you're jealous, consider how you act when your partner is out with other people. Do you trust them completely? Are you secure enough to know that even if there's some mild flirtation going on, it means nothing to your partner and that they are just being themselves? In a social situation are you confident enough in your relationship that both you and your partner can spend the evening separately mingling with other people? If so, you are probably quite relaxed and secure in your relationship and jealousy isn't an issue.
There are many healthy couples where both partners are confident enough in the state of their relationship that they know their partner has no intention of taking a flirtation any further that what it is, a fun interaction that means nothing.
On the other hand, if you are constantly wondering what your partner is doing when they aren't with you, you are distrustful of anyone who flirts with your partner, and are suspicious if you find out that they aren't where they're supposed to be, then that should send the jealousy alarm bell ringing in your head.
This would be a good time to talk about this with a friend that you trust to see if what you feel is normal, or whether it's a jealous streak that could destroy your relationship. Think about how you are with your partner in a social setting. Do you hang on their arm so that no-one else gets close to them? If you happen to be separated, do you spend the time watching what they're doing rather than enjoying yourself? Do you ring them for some trivial reason just so you can check that they are where they said they were going to be? All of these are signs that you are allowing your relationship to be clouded by jealousy.
If your relationship is jealousy free, then it stands a much greater chance of surviving. If you can identify either yourself, or with the help of friends, that you are jealous, then you can work on this so that you can identify why you feel this way and take steps to correct it.
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