He ended things, but you still love him.  Wanting your ex boyfriend back is one of the worst feelings in the whole world, especially when he doesn't respond to your contact or communication.  And so, in an effort to remain in his life, you agree to "stay friends" with your boyfriend after the breakup... one of the absolute biggest mistakes you could possibly make on the quest to get him back.

Here you are, pretending to be happy, with a front-row seat of your ex boyfriend's entire social life.  Every time he goes out... every time he does something with friends... you sit home and pray he doesn't meet anyone else because you still want to be with him.  As his friend, you're there for him.  You smile and act happy.  You think up things to talk to him about, and the conversations are awkward.  You tell him about your own life, and he doesn't seem to care half as much as he used to, back when you were dating.  And all the while, you're remembering the times he held you, kissed you, and had you as his girlfriend.

Trying to get your boyfriend back when he wants to be friends is like trying to win a race the day after it happened.  It's over.  It's impossible.  You've been demoted to the role of friend, and that's all you're ever going to be.  There's almost no coming back from the Friend Zone... no type of transition that goes from friendship back to a romantic couple.  That kind of stuff happens in the movies, and nowhere else.

To get back an ex boyfriend you need to sever your ties with him, and this can't happen from a position of friendship.  You need to disappear for a while, and get your ex wondering where you are.  You'll never win his heart until your ex wants you back, and this won't happen until your boyfriend misses you.  If you're his friend, you're always around - always in plain sight - always accessible.  Your ex has no chance to miss you because you never go away.

Want the brutal truth?  Your boyfriend doesn't even want to be friends with you.  Even if he suggested such an arrangement, it was only because he wanted to keep you around.  Your ex boyfriend still has feelings and emotions for you, and he's suppressing them in order to move forward.  By asking you to be his friend, he gets to know exactly where you are and what you're doing... just in case he changes his mind about dating you again.  This makes his decision a very, very safe one.  It also prolongs the break up, because your boyfriend will go on enjoying his single life knowing he can get you back whenever he wants.

Now imagine the opposite scenario: when he wants to be friends with you, and you tell him NO.  He asks why, and you tell him because you love him too much to just be his friend.  Then you walk away, throw your cellphone over your shoulder, yank the plug on your computer, and go solo for the next few days and weeks.

Do all that, and your ex boyfriend will come looking for you.  You'll get your ex to start chasing you, instead of you chasing him.  This happens because your ex is unsure of where you are and what you're doing.  You've refused to be friends with him, and so he now has to face the possibility of losing you forever.  With most guys, this doesn't sit well.  Best of all, it's a huge step toward getting your ex boyfriend back.

Being friends with an ex just doesn't work out - especially if you want him back.  So instead of pretending to be his friend, you should be learning some great techniques you can use to actually make your exboyfriend want you again.  There are methods for drawing out his past emotions and feelings for you, and for using them to remind your ex of just how great you were together.  These are the techniques that work... not staying "friends" with your ex and hoping he'll somehow magically fall back in love with you again.