Is there only one long term effect of divorce? Absolutely not! Divorce is extremely hard to go through.
If you are considering divorce, here are some things you should also consider.
What does divorce do to you, personally? It hurts you financially - the expenses are many, and can continue for a long time.
There is also the emotional aspect of it.
A struggling marriage is hard, but divorce is even harder.
It causes emotions to flare, especially when one spouse doesn't want a divorce.
It brings a lot of anger, depression, hostility, and so much more.
This emotional turmoil can lead to physical problems.
You may not be able to eat well anymore, or sleep, because of the extreme stress that you are under.
This will cause you to become ill more frequently.
These feelings won't go away after you get divorced, not for a long time.
You were married - the two of you were joined as one.
You can't be connected this way without being 'broken' when you divorce.
If your marriage isn't the best right now, are you absolutely SURE that you have no other option BUT to divorce? Or is it the easy way out? Couples who think about ending their marriage don't stop to think about the long term effect of divorce too often.
They just know that they don't want to be married anymore, and want out.
Stop a minute to really think about it.
Is your marriage REALLY that bad? Some marriages are.
If you are being abused, and feel like your life is in danger, then, yes - get out of that situation NOW.
If you aren't threatened in this way, and if the two of you are just arguing about little things constantly, then your marriage doesn't have to end.
If you don't even want to go home, because you know that your spouse will be there, and you don't want to deal with them, your marriage doesn't have to end.
These are things that most marriages go through, at one time or another.
But these are small issues, and will go away.
The two of you got married for a reason, right? What was that reason? Sometimes, taking a step back from your marriage and really looking at it can change your perspective.
You may just find that yur marriage isn't that bad.
It could definitely be worse.
When you think about the long term effect of divorce, are you ready to deal with those issues? Or can you think about working on your marriage a little bit, and seeing if it can't be saved? When marriages are troubled, it can lead to depression - fast.
but this depression can be lifted, as the couple works together to get through this.
Your marriage will become stronger in the process.
The long term effect of divorce on both of you will be WAY worse than what you are facing right now, and it won't go away for many years to come.