If you're in a new relationship, should you delay having sex? How does sexual intimacy affect your connection with a new guy? Will sex be the way to win him over? Women will discuss for generations whether to delay having sex with a new guy.
Here's some input.
There's this new guy, you really like him, and the passion is intense for both of you.
Would it be so wrong to give in to your desires? There must be some guidelines to follow.
Although modern society doesn't frown on sexually active women the way it did in the past, being overly indulging does have its drawbacks.
There are consequences to having sex too soon and a lot of them depend on what you are looking for.
Even if you aren't in the game for a long-lasting relationship, most women really don't want to be used for a quick roll in the hay and never hear from the guy again.
If you jump in the sack too soon, chances are this is exactly what you will get.
If you hold off, you will weed out the guys that are after you for a one night stand.
It would really be a shame if one of these guys was actually looking for something more serious, but you've given him the impression that's not in your game plan.
Second, if you really like a guy, sex can deter the development of the emotional connection which is the basis for all great relationships.
Sex too soon can actually doom a relationship into failure.
If you delay having sex, you give yourselves time to become best friends, and to learn all about each other without the added pressure of satisfying each other sexually, which can be very distracting.
If you each know that this is the person you want to have more with, then wait at least until you feel that strong emotional connection.
Once this is well on its way and you are exclusive with each other, you will just know when the time is right to add sex to your relationship.
If you delay having sex until this point, all aspects of your connection will be enhanced and you have a much better chance at staying in a long-term romance.