I have something to share with you.
I have seen for myself with countless young clients, that no matter how messed up your life has been, no matter how many "issues" you may have had, you can change your life for the better starting right now.
(sounds like one of those detergent commercials on TV, eh?) I think it's the people who don't quite "fit in" who have the best chance of starting new and really making it work, once they find a system that is made just for them.
The problem with a lot of systems is that they are forced upon people, they work for people who are "straight ahead", but if you are at all a bit "out there", those systems may not really speak to you.
So, how does the system work? The system is fairly simple, in itself, and I will explain in a minute, but what makes it special is what we bring along with it, or really, what we don't bring along with it.
We don't bring along your "history".
We don't bring along your mess ups.
I had one parent spend an hour telling me all the things that her kid did wrong.
When I finally found a space to speak, I asked the parent "what are the things your child does well?" The parent was very happy to go onto this entirely new tangent of all the really cool things that her child did.
They were awesome things and I knew that I could work with that.
If you have even one thing that's cool; you love music; you love animals or little kids; you're funny; you love the arts; (fill in your cool thing here); then this system can work for you and you can do something great! So now, back to how the system works:-) You pick three things that you would like to do in a day and maybe two things that you really think you ought to do.
Feel free to make up your own that make more sense to you but for the moment: Let's use one from one of my most recent clients; Client: Skeeter Peterson Things you like: 1) Go for a walk for 15 minutes a day (away from everybody and everything) 2) Read one chapter a day of fiction.
3) Work on a grounding exercise for five minutes a day to help minimize anxiety Things you "ought" to do: 1) Shower 2) Brush your teeth You might find Skeeter's choices a little weird, or they make make complete sense to you.
Your choices would be based on you.
Once we've made those choices, you create a daily routine sheet and you tick off each day the things you do, when you do them and you don't tick off when you don't do them.
What you find out is, it's not important whether you do them or not.
What's important is figuring out why you did it one day and not the next.
If you can figure out what inspires you (it could be the weirdest things that might not make sense to anyone else but you), then you learn how you best work and how to inspire yourself with things that will make sense to you.
So now, back to the first question; why bother? Cuz:-) But seriously, if you tried everything else and you're not happy with how your life is, you really have nothing to lose.
So why not bother.
Or just say "bleep it".
Try it and see what happens.
No expectations.
No pressure.
But a chance that this may be the thing for you.
There you have it.
It's a little different.
But it really works.
Please feel free to email me any questions you may have.
Thanks for reading!