It's understandable that the bride wants to be the one who looks the best on her special day but that doesn't mean the bridesmaid dresses have to be frumpy in order to keep the bride happy.
Attendants in the bridal party should be able to wear a nice outfit and look their best on their friend's wedding day.
If the bride is paying for her attendant's gowns, then she should have a say in the matter.
But if the bridal party are paying for their own outfits then they should feel free to buy whatever they like, within reason.
These days, it makes sense that the outfit is worn more than once, otherwise it's a lot to ask a friend to pay for a bridesmaid dress that only gets worn once in its lifetime.
It's important to ensure that the color of the gown doesn't clash with the wedding colors or theme.
Equally important is that the outfit flatters the wearer and makes them feel good.
After all, they're doing the bride a favour by agreeing to be in the bridal party, especially if they're paying for their own gown.
It's a good idea to allow plenty of time for the choosing of the bridesmaid dresses.
This way everyone can have their input on the color, style and cost.
By this time, the bride should know what she's wearing on her wedding day and will have an idea as to what will and won't clash with her wedding gown.
The most important point is not to let the issue of the bridesmaid dresses ruin a friendship.
A wedding ceremony will only last one day.
A friendship can last a lifetime.