Marriage brings certain bindings with it and realizing that your husband cheated on you, can come as a huge shock and a tremendous setback.
But that is definitely not the end of the world and your marriage stands a good chance of surviving if you are willing to make things work.
Here is what you can do to make it work.
Boost your husband's ego: understand that it is what a woman makes the man feel that attracts him to her.
Your husband's mistress does not have to be prettier than you or more intelligent or might not possess other qualities that you have.
Try boosting your husband's ego as much as you can.
It will make you more appealing in his eyes then.
Bring the spark back: Marriage must have made you take your husband for granted or other social commitments must have become a bigger priority to you and your husband.
See to it that you plan small surprises for him, do things he really likes and take time out for each other.
It will bring you and your husband closer and put you at an advantage over his mistress.
Take a break: Take a break or a vacation with your friends and have a good time with them.
You not being next to your husband whenever he wants you, will make him miss you and will also make him realize how important you are to him and how well you complement him by taking care of all his needs and being a hands on wife and mom, if you are a mother too.
Make the right moves: Show your husband who you actually are.
Show him the woman he first fell in love with.
You obviously will have an advantage over the mistress.
This is because he loved what you once were and that is why decided to get married to you.
Do all this in a subtle manner.
Overdoing it might work against you.
Believe that you are worth it: Have confidence in yourself.
You have spent a longer period of time with your man.
You know the smallest details about him which his mistress has no clue of and work on those lines.
Groom yourself: You might have taken your marriage for granted.
Try changing things subtly.
Groom yourself.
You can start by simply getting a new hairdo.
Look more appealing.
Take up hobby classes.
Develop new skills.
This will turn your husbands focus towards you again.
Learn from the experience: See to it that the affair is like a wake up call for you.
Check the issues that led to infidelity and work on them.